I was talking with a friend about the phenomenon of Finding Love in the Fediverse (I have several friends who have done it) — and he was shocked to hear it was even a thing.

That conversation's got me curious, so I want to open the question up:

Has anyone ever slid into your DMs respectfully and appropriately on Fedi? Have you ever initiated that kind of contact yourself?*

*I'm truly talking about appropriate, welcome, consensual connections, not randos harassing people. If you don't understand the distinction, I recommend that you stay out of this conversation and just quietly read and learn. (Anyone who responds with how women are mean to them will be recognized as a derailing troll and blocked accordingly -- hush, the adults are talking )

#AskFedi #AskMastodon #FediDating #FediSingles #MastodonDating #Romance #Dating #Relationships

With Congress on the horizon, the #RelationshipGeeks assembly volunteers are starting to organize and work on this year's program.

We can't wait to tell you all about the interesting workshops, talks and events awaiting you at #39c3 later this year.

Before that we want to give you the chance to get involved :)

If you want to contribute to the next edition of the assembly, join our Signal chat and get in contact!
https://signal.group/#CjQKIMGDvwWArEiCYitSUc14rYzceB5xQpwcNoAbhSj84RT0EhBQWoqUFepq__ZB9nrTS6g4

#relationships #relationshipanarchy #polyamory #enm

I was talking with a friend about the phenomenon of Finding Love in the Fediverse (I have several friends who have done it) — and he was shocked to hear it was even a thing.

That conversation's got me curious, so I want to open the question up:

Has anyone ever slid into your DMs respectfully and appropriately on Fedi? Have you ever initiated that kind of contact yourself?*

*I'm truly talking about appropriate, welcome, consensual connections, not randos harassing people. If you don't understand the distinction, I recommend that you stay out of this conversation and just quietly read and learn. (Anyone who responds with how women are mean to them will be recognized as a derailing troll and blocked accordingly -- hush, the adults are talking )

#AskFedi #AskMastodon #FediDating #FediSingles #MastodonDating #Romance #Dating #Relationships

Growth and commitment. #grickledoodle #love #relationships #witch #wizard#fantasy#cartoon#art#drawing#funny

With Congress on the horizon, the #RelationshipGeeks assembly volunteers are starting to organize and work on this year's program.

We can't wait to tell you all about the interesting workshops, talks and events awaiting you at #39c3 later this year.

Before that we want to give you the chance to get involved :)

If you want to contribute to the next edition of the assembly, join our Signal chat and get in contact!
https://signal.group/#CjQKIMGDvwWArEiCYitSUc14rYzceB5xQpwcNoAbhSj84RT0EhBQWoqUFepq__ZB9nrTS6g4

#relationships #relationshipanarchy #polyamory #enm

“to the extent that we are invited to outsource the effort of #sensemaking, our intellectual and #creative abilities will atrophy and our #relationships will suffer.”

Growth and commitment. #grickledoodle #love #relationships #witch #wizard#fantasy#cartoon#art#drawing#funny

Social experience design #SX is the opposite of #DigitalTransformation and offers a #people-first "needs-driven" approach to solution development that scales from personal vantage point via inter-personal #relationships, up to societal levels. Digital transformation is no more than a shallow #technology-first "tech means progress" approach to improve #hypercapitalism's profitability.

Stop the mindless digital transformation trend. #DigitalTransformationRunsDeep into shitty dystopic territory.

Hello youths, it is your queer auntie Abadidea back with the advice

I was alerted to a 19yo autistic person who heard "autistic people tend to form their first successful long-term relationship around 30" and concluded that there is then no point to even trying until they're 30. I don't know where this statistic came from or how accurate it is, but that's a bit beside the point, because:

Very few people get into a successful long-term relationship on their very first try. The usual way of things is that two well-meaning young people fall in love and then something goes painfully, messily wrong four months in and they both LEARN something about how to conduct themselves and how to deal with others. Repeat two or three more times until two people who have developed some emotional maturity fall in love. It may take autistic people a little longer on average to iron out the kinks, but they'll get there!

If you decide "I won't even try until I'm 30 because the math says that's when it works out," what's going to happen is that you're going to be 30 with the emotional maturity of a wildly unbalanced 18yo and all the other 30yos are going to be like... yeah, not touching that with a 10-foot pole.

Successful relationships come from practice, not from waiting for the Maturity Fairy to bless you!

#autism #relationships #advice #actuallyautistic

a second thought: The worst, most bitter argument of your life will be with someone you love — not an enemy or someone you dgaf about. Whether the relationship recovers from it depends a lot on the skills you’ve both learned about sailing troubled waters together.

#autism #relationships #advice #actuallyautistic

Hello youths, it is your queer auntie Abadidea back with the advice

I was alerted to a 19yo autistic person who heard "autistic people tend to form their first successful long-term relationship around 30" and concluded that there is then no point to even trying until they're 30. I don't know where this statistic came from or how accurate it is, but that's a bit beside the point, because:

Very few people get into a successful long-term relationship on their very first try. The usual way of things is that two well-meaning young people fall in love and then something goes painfully, messily wrong four months in and they both LEARN something about how to conduct themselves and how to deal with others. Repeat two or three more times until two people who have developed some emotional maturity fall in love. It may take autistic people a little longer on average to iron out the kinks, but they'll get there!

If you decide "I won't even try until I'm 30 because the math says that's when it works out," what's going to happen is that you're going to be 30 with the emotional maturity of a wildly unbalanced 18yo and all the other 30yos are going to be like... yeah, not touching that with a 10-foot pole.

Successful relationships come from practice, not from waiting for the Maturity Fairy to bless you!

#autism #relationships #advice #actuallyautistic

Listen up, sex nerds (and other nerds too, all nerds welcome): @BishTraining is here on Masto.

You should #follow him and share his stuff - I was banging on to him about how brilliant you are at sharing and being lovely.

He creates inclusive, thoughtful #SexEd for young people here: https://www.bishuk.com/

Podcasts for grown ups on culture, #sex and #relationships here: https://soundcloud.com/culturesexrelationships and on Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/c/culturesexrelationships/

Follow innit.