Art is only an illusion on the surface, with deep meaning below.
Power projects deep meaning on its surface, but is only an illusion deeper down.
Art is only an illusion on the surface, with deep meaning below.
Power projects deep meaning on its surface, but is only an illusion deeper down.
I started to compare this to the defining solarpunk post and got side-tracked when I couldn't find it. (The concept of punk is similarly explored in the movie SLC Punk.) That post (and the movie) makes it very clear that punk is NOT an aesthetic. (Neither is an art movement!) Punk can (and arguably should) be lived as a lifestyle. I consider myself to be striving for a solarpunk life. There are serious values as part of the solarpunk ethos. We don't do it to be cool, but we (or I at least) hope it will become cool so that more people are exposed to its ideals so we can make a real future from it.
Paperclippunk is not that.
And now I see why they spell it with a hyphen. Without it, it looks ridiculous. Even with it, it IS ridiculous at its core. And not even in the meaningful anti-meaning way of Dadaism!
It's stuff made by vapid people who want to be adored without putting in the work.
Art is only an illusion on the surface, with deep meaning below.
Power projects deep meaning on its surface, but is only an illusion deeper down.
I closely read the first half of this article. It hurt my brain. It's like reading cult writings (which I've done), full of logic-canceling loaded language.
It reminds me of the substantive post I read a few months ago about the meaning of "solarpunk," (I can't find it — it was going around).
I stopped injuring myself when she starts on how paperclip-punk (VERY important it's lower case to know a HUMAN made it) started as a website atheistic (light blue print on white), and said a disparaging thing about *dark mode*.
I DO get it. For people who don't understand anything about anything, but who want status and to be admired more than anything else, they latch on to 100% form over 0% function. Because they believe everything to be about form. Reality is created through form. Their status is created through form. They mimick what real punks and real artists do.
Paperclip-Punk (capitalized because I'm a REAL rebel) makes perfect sense to this type of person. Since they don't understand the MEANING behind the art that real people are creating, they think this era's "decoy" surface-level art is "fication-fication," or just making things LOOK like other things. To them, Robocop in Ghibli style (my example) doesn't have any underlying meaning derived from the themes of Robocop plus the themes of Ghibli movies. There is no real symbolism or thought to anything. They stop at the surface. It's paper clothes clipped to paper dolls. No wonder they love ChatGPT so much!
Unfortunately, this type of "ideologue" (they don't have ideals) currently owns and runs the machineries of power, and, well, the machines.
To an extent, they are right. Unlike art, power is largely illusory. Psychology trickery. Fairy food. Manufactured consent.
The word "prestige" used to mean "stage magic," and "glamour" was a fae illusion.
Power can be bested by dispelling its lies.
They aren't as powerful as they look.
And knowing that is punk.
#AbuseCulture #Solparpunk https://beige.party/@mayintoronto/115667365274950159
So many of these people I interact with on NextDoor simply haven’t thought it through. It’s amazing.
When you figure out how to detect and handle actual abusers, you find all these people who just mimic abusers because they haven’t been exposed to any other way.
Asking questions really is a super power in these troubling times. Don’t argue, don’t debate. Ask questions. It opens up everything. If they’re a genuine abuser or fascist, they will show their colors to everyone. If they’re just a follower, it gets them to think it through, sometimes for the first time. Even more, the attention you show can get them to trust you, let down their guard, and then anything you say can be actually heard.
(I might post screenshots later. But I have to take this slow to take care of myself.)
@cykonot Pretty much. 😞 it works really well on some things, but there needs to be a triage step presently missing in the middle: Am I currently undergoing real, actual trauma? Because no therapy is going to resolve it if that's the case. DBT can likewise be fairly insidious in the wrong situation.
But for treating the symptoms of acute, temporary stress, and ongoing reactions to traumas that are truly in the past? CBT works pretty well. I just found it's difficult to find periods like these.
The therapy profession has been coopted by capitalism as a tool to get us to cope just a little longer through our relentless, unnatural trudge of exploitation. #AbuseCulture
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is like instructions on how to whitehat gaslight yourself
@cykonot Pretty much. 😞 it works really well on some things, but there needs to be a triage step presently missing in the middle: Am I currently undergoing real, actual trauma? Because no therapy is going to resolve it if that's the case. DBT can likewise be fairly insidious in the wrong situation.
But for treating the symptoms of acute, temporary stress, and ongoing reactions to traumas that are truly in the past? CBT works pretty well. I just found it's difficult to find periods like these.
The therapy profession has been coopted by capitalism as a tool to get us to cope just a little longer through our relentless, unnatural trudge of exploitation. #AbuseCulture
"Why didn't you say something sooner?!"
Because of responses like "Why didn't you say something sooner..."
yes abusers and enablers really do this. no it doesn't make sense. yes sometimes well meaning people say thoughtless things like these. but abusers employ these strategically, as weapons. and then the more contradictory they are, the harder it is for victims to make sense of it and to escape the mental maze. the nonsense is an effective and insidious strategy in such cases.
If you're someone who is trying to be there for an abuse survivor and you said stuff like this? Don't worry. You can apologise and repair the relationship if there was damage.
In fact, proving that apologising is possible and not a power play and not a big deal or an injury to your pride, and that relationships can be developed, strengthened and even repaired? That is one of THE most powerful things you can do for a survivor!
The worst wounds that abuse inflicts is by hurting relationships and by teaching unhealthy dynamics and attitudes, like entitlement, as the supposed norm. It is easy to disprove that just by being a friend, a flawed messy HUMAN BEING who doesn't need either of us to be perfect.
bonus points for then turning around and blaming me for talking about it "too much"
yes abusers and enablers really do this. no it doesn't make sense. yes sometimes well meaning people say thoughtless things like these. but abusers employ these strategically, as weapons. and then the more contradictory they are, the harder it is for victims to make sense of it and to escape the mental maze. the nonsense is an effective and insidious strategy in such cases.
"Why didn't you say something sooner?!"
Because of responses like "Why didn't you say something sooner..."
KICK RAPISTS OUT!!!!!
Don't fucking hesitate to do that!!!!
I was trying to write a post about what people can do to help, but like. What is there to say. Kick fucking rapists the fuck out. That's it. What the fuck is wrong with people that they don't fucking do that?
KICK RAPISTS OUT.
OK other things I can think of, none of which substitute KICKING RAPISTS OUT:
Stop silencing and blaming victims/survivors.
Go out of your way to support victims/survivors speaking up. This is gonna be invaluable to YOU too. It's ok to be selfish enough that you're gonna actively support your best allies.
Abuse survivors are your best allies because they know how abusers work and how to survive that.
Learn about common abuse and manipulation tactics and their underlying beliefs, attitudes and worldviews. These have striking commonalities between domestic abusers, corrupt fossil fuel companies, oppressive governments, fascists, religious fundamentalists, scammers and police. So it's important to know about that stuff to have an impact as a climate justice movement ANYWAY.
Make rapists afraid.
#AbuseCulture #RapeCuture #feminism #ClimateJustice #antifa #acab #MakeRapistsAfraidAgain
I'm on @delta delta chat now! I want to host a group for abuse survivors and those who question whether they were or are experiencing or witnessing abuse or coercive control or undue influence or someone is using power over them and retaliating against them when they don't "behave".
I myself survived childhood sexual abuse, incest, abuse by a cult, my therapist, psychiatry nurses, sibling, friends, queerplatonic partner/girlfriend, roommate and harrassment from a nazi neighbor plus landlords. I kinda got a bad start to life (in germany) and then people tended to make it worse instead of helping me or they took advantage of me.
So I learned a lot about what does and doesn't help!
And I want to help you out, whether you went through something you fear no one will believe or be able to stomach hearing about, or you think it was probably nothing and you overreact. You don't overreact! Nothing is too small to be worth talking about.
I'm making a space to have a warm, supportive, good vibes atmosphere that we co-create together. We'll help each other grow and see through confusions and distortions of the truth and gain more agency, to make choices, decisions and do stuff and have an impact on the world.
We'll also have fun and laugh and cry and eat cookies and discover what it's like to argue with someone who doesn't slice you to ribbons emotionally.
Anyone is welcome regardless of age, gender, ability, neurotype, location or background. I just ask that you help make the group a good space, be that by complaining when everyone else is too polite to say anything or by listening or by sharing. Please don't worry that by joining you'll take up too much space or take resources away from someone who might need them more — you ARE our space and our resources!
The first step is, once we have at least a handful of people, to decide when and how often to meet.
I use @delta delta chat for its privacy and because it works with spotty internet and very little tech knowledge. It works on desktop and mobile. You can download the app from google's or apple's appstore or FDroid or their website delta.chat (watch me not get the preview to work)
It was super easy to make an account and didn't require anything other than a username - no phone number or email address (or password).
DM me for an invite, which is a link that you click to join the group. The group is invite only to keep out bots and abusers.
Please boost and share this post, including on other sites or however it works for you, or by talking about it and linking here.
#abuse #AbuseCulture #AbuseSurvivor #trauma #MentalHealth #MutualAid #CommunityCare #SelfCare #dissociation #csa #childAbuse #ElderAbuse #EatingDisorder #recovery #cult #CultRecovery #healing #empowerment #EmpowerWomen #growth #resist #rape #RapeCulture #RapeSurvivor #survivor
I'm on @delta delta chat now! I want to host a group for abuse survivors and those who question whether they were or are experiencing or witnessing abuse or coercive control or undue influence or someone is using power over them and retaliating against them when they don't "behave".
I myself survived childhood sexual abuse, incest, abuse by a cult, my therapist, psychiatry nurses, sibling, friends, queerplatonic partner/girlfriend, roommate and harrassment from a nazi neighbor plus landlords. I kinda got a bad start to life (in germany) and then people tended to make it worse instead of helping me or they took advantage of me.
So I learned a lot about what does and doesn't help!
And I want to help you out, whether you went through something you fear no one will believe or be able to stomach hearing about, or you think it was probably nothing and you overreact. You don't overreact! Nothing is too small to be worth talking about.
I'm making a space to have a warm, supportive, good vibes atmosphere that we co-create together. We'll help each other grow and see through confusions and distortions of the truth and gain more agency, to make choices, decisions and do stuff and have an impact on the world.
We'll also have fun and laugh and cry and eat cookies and discover what it's like to argue with someone who doesn't slice you to ribbons emotionally.
Anyone is welcome regardless of age, gender, ability, neurotype, location or background. I just ask that you help make the group a good space, be that by complaining when everyone else is too polite to say anything or by listening or by sharing. Please don't worry that by joining you'll take up too much space or take resources away from someone who might need them more — you ARE our space and our resources!
The first step is, once we have at least a handful of people, to decide when and how often to meet.
I use @delta delta chat for its privacy and because it works with spotty internet and very little tech knowledge. It works on desktop and mobile. You can download the app from google's or apple's appstore or FDroid or their website delta.chat (watch me not get the preview to work)
It was super easy to make an account and didn't require anything other than a username - no phone number or email address (or password).
DM me for an invite, which is a link that you click to join the group. The group is invite only to keep out bots and abusers.
Please boost and share this post, including on other sites or however it works for you, or by talking about it and linking here.
#abuse #AbuseCulture #AbuseSurvivor #trauma #MentalHealth #MutualAid #CommunityCare #SelfCare #dissociation #csa #childAbuse #ElderAbuse #EatingDisorder #recovery #cult #CultRecovery #healing #empowerment #EmpowerWomen #growth #resist #rape #RapeCulture #RapeSurvivor #survivor
Basically, Respectability Politics is a cycle of perpetual inadequacy.
I mean, I'd love a middle-ground, too, if it were possible.
It isn't. Not under these circumstances. Not with these people.
The underlying mind control mechanism acting in a victim's brain, before they realize this, is called Perpetual Inadequacy. You will always be striving to please an abuser (or a cult leader or an abusive class), but nothing you do can please them for long, if ever.
Basically, Respectability Politics is a cycle of perpetual inadequacy.
The underlying mind control mechanism acting in a victim's brain, before they realize this, is called Perpetual Inadequacy. You will always be striving to please an abuser (or a cult leader or an abusive class), but nothing you do can please them for long, if ever.
"I want a middle ground on so many of these policies. But the fundamental problem is they do not."
Quote of the century.
We can measure the moment a person moves hard left by the moment they realize this.
This truth applies outside of politics, such is why I use the umbrella of abuse culture.
#AbuseCulture https://infosec.exchange/@pixelnull/115475971399294765
Ugh, I keep seeing the term "trauma bonding" be used to mean two people connecting after undergoing the same trauma.
NO. It means when a trauma VICTIM bonds with their ABUSER. (Formerly known as Stockholm Syndrome.)
It's just like how "learned helplessness" gets misused. I don't believe this type of re-defining happens on accident.
First time I saw this was on Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. Now it's on Bet (the American reboot of Kakeguri).
