Spousal violence can take many forms. Recognizing the signs of financial abuse is the first step toward reclaiming agency and regaining control. https://www.japantimes.co.jp/community/2025/12/08/issues/financial-abuse-mental-health/?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=mastodon #community #issues #expats #mixedrelationships #marriage #divorce #mentalhealth #abuse #womensissues
A Police Recording Reveals How a Minnesota Old Apostolic Lutheran Church Enabled an Abuser
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ProPublica reporter Jessica Lussenhop received a roughly 40-minute recorded conversation between sheriff’s detectives and two preachers at a Minnesota church. The recording reveals how repeated sexual abuse can continue as an open secret.
https://www.propublica.org/article/minnesota-old-apostolic-lutheran-church-sexual-abuse-police-recording?utm_source=mastodon&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=mastodon-post
#News #Minnesota #Police #Abuse #Church #Religion #Law #Journalism
Church leaders held meetings where children were told to forgive the man who sexually abused them and forget the abuse. An internal church document also suggests that, when appropriate, both parties be brought together for a discussion.
https://www.propublica.org/article/minnesota-old-apostolic-lutheran-church-investigation-takeaways?utm_source=mastodon&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=mastodon-post
#News #Minnesota #Duluth #Abuse #Church #Religion #Law #Crime #Epstein
Abuse of the nullish coalescing operator in JS/TS
https://fredrikmalmo.com/blog/js-ts-nullish-empty-string-coalescing
#HackerNews #Abuse #of #the #nullish #coalescing #operator #in #JS/TS #JavaScript #TypeScript #NullishCoalescing #ProgrammingTips
Church leaders held meetings where children were told to forgive the man who sexually abused them and forget the abuse. An internal church document also suggests that, when appropriate, both parties be brought together for a discussion.
https://www.propublica.org/article/minnesota-old-apostolic-lutheran-church-investigation-takeaways?utm_source=mastodon&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=mastodon-post
#News #Minnesota #Duluth #Abuse #Church #Religion #Law #Crime #Epstein
Said goodbye to Broadcast in 2016 and never looked back.
They've never had anything that I've urgently needed to see, the few comedy series I enjoy I catch on the high seas, sometimes years after the fact.
Broadcast just doesn't work for us Millennials and the Iplayer is a chore to use and isn't the full library. We want control with our viewing.
The thug you sent round to 'enquire' as to our viewing arrangements sealed the deal.
https://www.theguardian.com/media/2025/nov/21/bbc-losing-potential-licence-fee-revenue-say-mps
Also, I don't know what the fuck goes on at the BBC but the torrent of sex abuse crimes coming from that organisation puts me off funding it.
https://deadline.com/2025/11/strictly-come-dancing-star-arrested-rape-1236625625/
#HRW & #Cristosal also found detainees were subject to “constant beatings & other forms of ill-treatment,” including #SexualViolence. They noted guards withholding #food & #medicine. “Many of these abuses constitute #torture under international human rights #law,” the report says.
The #HumanRights orgs determined the #abuse was the result of “systematic violations,” rather than independent actions by guards & other ofcls at #CECOT.
All 40 of the men interviewed reported facing severe psychological & physical #abuse on an almost daily basis.
The researchers found that the #US became #complicit in the men’s forced disappearances by repeatedly denying family members info about where their loved ones were being held. Acc/to the report, the #Trump admin violated its legal obligation to uphold the principle of non-refoulement, which prohibits sending people to countries where they are likely to be tortured or persecuted.
…They described routine beatings & humiliations, medical neglect, & severe punishments in an isolation cell referred to as la isla, or the island, according to MJ reporting. “What they did there was #torture us,” one of the men said.
#HRW & #Cristosal found similar evidence of abuse. They concluded that the #Venezuelans sent to #CECOT “were subjected to what amounts to arbitrary detention & enforced disappearance under international human rights law.”
#HRW & #Cristosal also found detainees were subject to “constant beatings & other forms of ill-treatment,” including #SexualViolence. They noted guards withholding #food & #medicine. “Many of these abuses constitute #torture under international human rights #law,” the report says.
The #HumanRights orgs determined the #abuse was the result of “systematic violations,” rather than independent actions by guards & other ofcls at #CECOT.
Based on the testimonies of 40 men who were detained at #CECOT, as well as interviews with 150 other people—including lawyers & relatives in #Venezuela, #Colombia, & the US—it paints a damning picture of the abuses inflicted at CECOT.
The #Venezuelans were released in July and returned to their country of origin as part of a prisoner swap deal. Shortly after their release, 3 of the men told MJ that they faced severe #abuse.
#Trump #law #immigration #Rendition #HumanRights #DueProcess #torture
Just how far is now the subject of a national conversation—set off by the #SexualAssault Tues—about the #harassment, #abuse & #violence #women still face in #Mexico. Online, on TV & in their homes, women expressed indignation that not even the president was safe & resignation that nothing would ever change.
#ClaudiaSheinbaum herself said on Wednesday what many were wondering, asking, “If this can happen to the president, what’s going to happen to all the young women & women across our country?”
On the streets of #Mexico City this week, many #women could quickly recall frightening personal incidents—men following them on the street or groping them on a crowded train. Many said they did not believe they could count on the #police to pursue such cases, whether #SexualHarassment was a punishable #crime or not.
#SexualAssault #RapeCulture #misogyny #MaleSupremacy #ViolenceAgainstWomen #ClaudiaSheinbaum
In the capital, where #SexualHarassment & #abuse are crimes, many #women said the #police would file a complaint only if a victim knew her abuser’s name. Going to the authorities was widely seen as a waste of time, they said; even if a complaint was filed, it would be unlikely to result in a full investigation or arrest, as it did in President Sheinbaum’s case.
#SexualAssault #RapeCulture #misogyny #MaleSupremacy #ViolenceAgainstWomen #ClaudiaSheinbaum
Just how far is now the subject of a national conversation—set off by the #SexualAssault Tues—about the #harassment, #abuse & #violence #women still face in #Mexico. Online, on TV & in their homes, women expressed indignation that not even the president was safe & resignation that nothing would ever change.
#ClaudiaSheinbaum herself said on Wednesday what many were wondering, asking, “If this can happen to the president, what’s going to happen to all the young women & women across our country?”
yes abusers and enablers really do this. no it doesn't make sense. yes sometimes well meaning people say thoughtless things like these. but abusers employ these strategically, as weapons. and then the more contradictory they are, the harder it is for victims to make sense of it and to escape the mental maze. the nonsense is an effective and insidious strategy in such cases.
If you're someone who is trying to be there for an abuse survivor and you said stuff like this? Don't worry. You can apologise and repair the relationship if there was damage.
In fact, proving that apologising is possible and not a power play and not a big deal or an injury to your pride, and that relationships can be developed, strengthened and even repaired? That is one of THE most powerful things you can do for a survivor!
The worst wounds that abuse inflicts is by hurting relationships and by teaching unhealthy dynamics and attitudes, like entitlement, as the supposed norm. It is easy to disprove that just by being a friend, a flawed messy HUMAN BEING who doesn't need either of us to be perfect.
bonus points for then turning around and blaming me for talking about it "too much"
yes abusers and enablers really do this. no it doesn't make sense. yes sometimes well meaning people say thoughtless things like these. but abusers employ these strategically, as weapons. and then the more contradictory they are, the harder it is for victims to make sense of it and to escape the mental maze. the nonsense is an effective and insidious strategy in such cases.
The ouster of Joe Allen, #FHFA's acting #InspectorGeneral, follows the agency's director, Bill Pulte, becoming an outspoken voice in support of the #Trump admin. Across the government, the Trump admin has so far fired or reassigned close to two dozen agency #watchdogs, who police #waste, #fraud & #abuse. It has also defunded the group that supervises those offices.
#law #RevengePolitics #USpol #authoritarianism #fascism #tyranny
I'm on @delta delta chat now! I want to host a group for abuse survivors and those who question whether they were or are experiencing or witnessing abuse or coercive control or undue influence or someone is using power over them and retaliating against them when they don't "behave".
I myself survived childhood sexual abuse, incest, abuse by a cult, my therapist, psychiatry nurses, sibling, friends, queerplatonic partner/girlfriend, roommate and harrassment from a nazi neighbor plus landlords. I kinda got a bad start to life (in germany) and then people tended to make it worse instead of helping me or they took advantage of me.
So I learned a lot about what does and doesn't help!
And I want to help you out, whether you went through something you fear no one will believe or be able to stomach hearing about, or you think it was probably nothing and you overreact. You don't overreact! Nothing is too small to be worth talking about.
I'm making a space to have a warm, supportive, good vibes atmosphere that we co-create together. We'll help each other grow and see through confusions and distortions of the truth and gain more agency, to make choices, decisions and do stuff and have an impact on the world.
We'll also have fun and laugh and cry and eat cookies and discover what it's like to argue with someone who doesn't slice you to ribbons emotionally.
Anyone is welcome regardless of age, gender, ability, neurotype, location or background. I just ask that you help make the group a good space, be that by complaining when everyone else is too polite to say anything or by listening or by sharing. Please don't worry that by joining you'll take up too much space or take resources away from someone who might need them more — you ARE our space and our resources!
The first step is, once we have at least a handful of people, to decide when and how often to meet.
I use @delta delta chat for its privacy and because it works with spotty internet and very little tech knowledge. It works on desktop and mobile. You can download the app from google's or apple's appstore or FDroid or their website delta.chat (watch me not get the preview to work)
It was super easy to make an account and didn't require anything other than a username - no phone number or email address (or password).
DM me for an invite, which is a link that you click to join the group. The group is invite only to keep out bots and abusers.
Please boost and share this post, including on other sites or however it works for you, or by talking about it and linking here.
#abuse #AbuseCulture #AbuseSurvivor #trauma #MentalHealth #MutualAid #CommunityCare #SelfCare #dissociation #csa #childAbuse #ElderAbuse #EatingDisorder #recovery #cult #CultRecovery #healing #empowerment #EmpowerWomen #growth #resist #rape #RapeCulture #RapeSurvivor #survivor
I'm on @delta delta chat now! I want to host a group for abuse survivors and those who question whether they were or are experiencing or witnessing abuse or coercive control or undue influence or someone is using power over them and retaliating against them when they don't "behave".
I myself survived childhood sexual abuse, incest, abuse by a cult, my therapist, psychiatry nurses, sibling, friends, queerplatonic partner/girlfriend, roommate and harrassment from a nazi neighbor plus landlords. I kinda got a bad start to life (in germany) and then people tended to make it worse instead of helping me or they took advantage of me.
So I learned a lot about what does and doesn't help!
And I want to help you out, whether you went through something you fear no one will believe or be able to stomach hearing about, or you think it was probably nothing and you overreact. You don't overreact! Nothing is too small to be worth talking about.
I'm making a space to have a warm, supportive, good vibes atmosphere that we co-create together. We'll help each other grow and see through confusions and distortions of the truth and gain more agency, to make choices, decisions and do stuff and have an impact on the world.
We'll also have fun and laugh and cry and eat cookies and discover what it's like to argue with someone who doesn't slice you to ribbons emotionally.
Anyone is welcome regardless of age, gender, ability, neurotype, location or background. I just ask that you help make the group a good space, be that by complaining when everyone else is too polite to say anything or by listening or by sharing. Please don't worry that by joining you'll take up too much space or take resources away from someone who might need them more — you ARE our space and our resources!
The first step is, once we have at least a handful of people, to decide when and how often to meet.
I use @delta delta chat for its privacy and because it works with spotty internet and very little tech knowledge. It works on desktop and mobile. You can download the app from google's or apple's appstore or FDroid or their website delta.chat (watch me not get the preview to work)
It was super easy to make an account and didn't require anything other than a username - no phone number or email address (or password).
DM me for an invite, which is a link that you click to join the group. The group is invite only to keep out bots and abusers.
Please boost and share this post, including on other sites or however it works for you, or by talking about it and linking here.
#abuse #AbuseCulture #AbuseSurvivor #trauma #MentalHealth #MutualAid #CommunityCare #SelfCare #dissociation #csa #childAbuse #ElderAbuse #EatingDisorder #recovery #cult #CultRecovery #healing #empowerment #EmpowerWomen #growth #resist #rape #RapeCulture #RapeSurvivor #survivor
@gamingagainstv @stopTDV But is it #FLOSS ?
No, not truly #floss.
Our games are free and can be shared freely; no DRM.
But, due to the nature of the games, we don't allow changes to the meaning and nature of the narratives.
The games are non-violent, trauma-informed, and designed for ages 11-15. Topics include #consent and #abuse #prevention. We won't allow the games to be adapted into something violent or harmful.
This approach limits our reach - but helps us protect students from harmful content.
That destruction is crystallized and illustrated in the starkest way possible in his razing of a wing of the White House to build a guilded ballroom as he chooses to withhold support for food to hungry families and children.
Please don't tell me you can justify all this in the name of Jesus Christ.
Because you can't.
#Trump #WhiteEvangelicals #SouthernBaptists #Arkansas #women #abuse #MAGA #cruelty #immigrants #children #food #ballroom #EpsteinBallroom
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That destruction is crystallized and illustrated in the starkest way possible in his razing of a wing of the White House to build a guilded ballroom as he chooses to withhold support for food to hungry families and children.
Please don't tell me you can justify all this in the name of Jesus Christ.
Because you can't.
#Trump #WhiteEvangelicals #SouthernBaptists #Arkansas #women #abuse #MAGA #cruelty #immigrants #children #food #ballroom #EpsteinBallroom
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