Le app di incontri ci chiedono di decidere in un secondo quello che l'evoluzione ha progettato per costruire in mesi. Uno psicologo della UC Davis ha studiato come funziona davvero l'attrazione: la compatibilità si costruisce, non si swipa. E quel "tipo" che credi di volere? I dati dicono che non c'entra niente con chi ti renderebbe felice.
Last year, I wrote this article about dating apps privacy ❤️🔒
It has a focus on queer dating apps for Pride, but I think it contains valuable information for anyone using any dating apps.
If you are currently using a dating app,
or thinking of using one, you might find some useful tips and warnings in there: https://www.privacyguides.org/articles/2025/06/24/queer-dating-apps-beware-who-you-trust/
It's easy: Never, ever use *any* #datingApp. I'm not aware of a good one.
Most are owned by the #MatchGroup. Run. Away. Fast.
No matter, if you are straight, queer, genderfluid, whatever.
Never, ever use *any* fucking #dating app!
One woman’s wedding to a chatbot reflects a quiet shift in how intimacy, commitment and companionship are starting to be redefined in Japan. https://www.japantimes.co.jp/life/2026/02/13/lifestyle/japan-ai-dating-marriage/?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=mastodon #life #lifestyle #ai #chatgpt #romance #chatbots #tech #loverse #gokikusunoki #dating #relationships
n8chz 🩎
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Excellent! Highly recommended.
“European adults are not magically better communicators. But many were given earlier language to talk about boundaries without turning it into a fight. That reduces resentment. It also reduces the quiet coercion that happens in many couples where one partner endures discomfort because they feel guilty..”
♂️ #menshealth #sexuality #marriage #husbands #husbandry #masculinity #testosterone #aging #healthcare #Men #dating @menshealth https://www.gamintraveler.com/2026/02/08/the-sex-education-european-adults-got-that-americans-never-did/?utm_source=flipboard&utm_content=JanetteSpeyer/magazine/FLIPBOARD+USER+GROUP
Maybe we could leverage the growing frustration with the surveillance armageddon and the enshittification of dating apps, by organising a friendly competition. The challenge;
Build a privacy-respecting dating app using a decentralised protocol, and present a usable prototype by the competition's end (3 months? 6 months? End of 2026?).
Ideally we'd have teams from the AP, XMPP, Matrix, AT and Nostr camps, and maybe more.
Had a vague memory of discussions on SH about the prospects of federating dating services with ActivityPub, turns out there was some discussion of the nuts and bolts here;
https://socialhub.activitypub.rocks/t/thoughts-on-activitypub-dating-apps/5027/2
@thenewoil
> Tinder looks to AI
The enshittification continues. I remember @evan shared some thoughts about using ActivityPub to develop a federated #dating app. In some ways, it's the ultimate test for UX, onboarding, etc, in federated networks. Some challenges;
* it requires helping people meet within a geographical range
* it requires a critical mass of attractive people using it to attract others (the bootstrap problem dialed up to maximum)
* Trust & Safety are *essential*
Maybe we could leverage the growing frustration with the surveillance armageddon and the enshittification of dating apps, by organising a friendly competition. The challenge;
Build a privacy-respecting dating app using a decentralised protocol, and present a usable prototype by the competition's end (3 months? 6 months? End of 2026?).
Ideally we'd have teams from the AP, XMPP, Matrix, AT and Nostr camps, and maybe more.
Strypey
and 2 others
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Please share
I need your help: For an investigation into dating app algorithms, I am looking to get in touch with developers and others who work/have worked for such providers and would be willing to talk to me. Anonymous responses are also welcome. Questions include: What mechanisms are used to keep users on the platform? What ideas/constructs of partnership/matching are embedded in the algorithm? Please share widely! Thank you❤️
Anonymous and other contact options: see bio.
#dating
@thenewoil
> Tinder looks to AI
The enshittification continues. I remember @evan shared some thoughts about using ActivityPub to develop a federated #dating app. In some ways, it's the ultimate test for UX, onboarding, etc, in federated networks. Some challenges;
* it requires helping people meet within a geographical range
* it requires a critical mass of attractive people using it to attract others (the bootstrap problem dialed up to maximum)
* Trust & Safety are *essential*
Excellent! Highly recommended.
“European adults are not magically better communicators. But many were given earlier language to talk about boundaries without turning it into a fight. That reduces resentment. It also reduces the quiet coercion that happens in many couples where one partner endures discomfort because they feel guilty..”
♂️ #menshealth #sexuality #marriage #husbands #husbandry #masculinity #testosterone #aging #healthcare #Men #dating @menshealth https://www.gamintraveler.com/2026/02/08/the-sex-education-european-adults-got-that-americans-never-did/?utm_source=flipboard&utm_content=JanetteSpeyer/magazine/FLIPBOARD+USER+GROUP
What can a TV show teach us about reality? Despite some predictable pairings and sentimental soliloquies, “The Boyfriend” offers one of the most prominent spaces in Japan for mainstream queer representation. https://www.japantimes.co.jp/culture/2026/02/06/tv-streaming/the-boyfriend-reality-tv/?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=mastodon #culture #tvstreaming #netflix #lgbtq #dating #relationships #streaming #japanesetv
Police have arrested a 27-year-old male host on suspicion of violating the amusement business law by using a dating app to solicit female customers to a host club in Tokyo. https://www.japantimes.co.jp/news/2026/01/30/japan/crime-legal/kabukicho-host-arrest-dating-app/?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=mastodon #japan #crimelegal #japanesepolice #dating #apps #hostbars #shinjuku #kabukicho
André Menrath
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Ich brauche eure Hilfe: Für eine Recherche über Algorithmen von Dating-Apps suche ich Kontakt zu Entwickler:innen und anderen, die bei solchen Anbietern arbeiten/gearbeitet haben und bereit wären, mit mir zu sprechen. Gerne auch anonym. Fragestellung ua: Mit welchen Mechanismen werden User:innen auf der Plattform gehalten? Welche Ideen/Konstrukte von Partnerschaft/Matching stecken im Algorithmus? Bitte teilt das breit! Danke❤️
Anonyme und andere Kontaktmöglichkeiten: s. Bio.
#dating
Michał "rysiek" Woźniak · 🇺🇦
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The 2nd episode of Making the Familiar Strange podcast is now available with @FoxCahn, myself and Jess.
This is a frank conversation about the sorry state of #dating, #intimacy and #enshittification.
Available everywhere you get podcasts (RSS - https://feeds.redcircle.com/95190f06-ba12-47ae-9267-4aaa656f4e93)
The 2nd episode of Making the Familiar Strange podcast is now available with @FoxCahn, myself and Jess.
This is a frank conversation about the sorry state of #dating, #intimacy and #enshittification.
Available everywhere you get podcasts (RSS - https://feeds.redcircle.com/95190f06-ba12-47ae-9267-4aaa656f4e93)