Fights, insults and unexpected sincerity: Netflix Japan’s “Badly in Love” flips the script (and a few desks) on the dating-show formula by centering on delinquent culture. And it works. https://www.japantimes.co.jp/culture/2025/12/16/tv-streaming/badly-in-love/?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=mastodon #culture #tvstreaming #television #japanesetv #netflix #dating #badlyinlove
Em :official_verified:
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Emily Lyons posted this on LinkedIn…definitely food for thought
“The modern dating crisis has nothing to do with a lack of options. It has everything to do with impossible standards.
As a CEO of companies in the dating space, the number one reason people stay single: Unrealistic expectations.
Not heartbreak.
Not lack of options.
Not timing.
Expectations.
The list gets longer. The standards get narrower. The boxes get more specific. And suddenly the person who could have been perfect for you gets dismissed for something trivial.
You don’t need someone who checks every box. You need someone who shows up for the right boxes.
Kindness. Emotional safety. Chemistry that grows instead of explodes. Shared vision for life. Respect. A willingness to repair.
The right partner is not the perfect person. The right partner is the person who makes you feel like you can be fully yourself.
Drop the list. Keep your standards.”
A trend that I am not fond of in 2025 is this: I've seen men go from sending unsolicited nudes, to aggressively demanding nudes, to aggressively demanding not just nudes but specifying angles, shots and poses.
Gentlemen (using the term generously), apparently this needs saying:
You are not entitled to nude pictures of the bodies of all the women in the world. Especially women you've just met.
Random women are not your personal porn stars.
There is a whole internet full of free porn. Avail yourself of it to your heart's content.
There are hard working people (of all genders) who have accounts on sites like OnlyFans who will be happy to provide you with the custom porn of your desires as a professional service for professional premium rates. If you want a professional service, pay a pro, and support indie content creators.
On a related note, because this seems to need saying as well: "No" is a full sentence.
Note: I am 100% sex positive. That's not what this is about at all.
The issue here is egregious and growing male entitlement to consume women's bodies and sexuality as objects, and also our time and energy.
This isn't an "incel" thing or a "Gen Z" thing: I see it from men of all ages, levels of experience, and for that matter political alignments.
I'm speaking from (extensive) personal experience. I'm exhausted by men acting this way and my patience for it is nil.
[If your experience is different, and I hope it is, then that's not what this post is about and you're welcome to discuss your own experiences on your own account.]
Guys, if you want to make lasting connections with women, I swear it's as easy as treating us as if you saw us as fully human.
On a positive note, men who consistently treat women decently, respect boundaries, and understand consent absolutely stand out. (There are a lot of you on Fedi, too.) Thank you for being the bright lights you are.
Neil Brown
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This time in '22 I spent multiple days and 5,000 words explaining how to write the BEST online #dating profile. I stand by every word. If more people did this, online dating would be less of a chore.
Hinge doesn't give you enough space to do this, which is why you'll never find me there.
https://www.girlonthenet.com/blog/best-online-dating-profile/
This time in '22 I spent multiple days and 5,000 words explaining how to write the BEST online #dating profile. I stand by every word. If more people did this, online dating would be less of a chore.
Hinge doesn't give you enough space to do this, which is why you'll never find me there.
https://www.girlonthenet.com/blog/best-online-dating-profile/
Em :official_verified:
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By the way, this article I wrote for Pride Month on queer dating apps is also applicable to anyone using any dating apps.
I highly recommend a read if
you are currently using a dating app,
or have been in the past and have not deleted your data and account yet:
https://www.privacyguides.org/articles/2025/06/24/queer-dating-apps-beware-who-you-trust/
#Privacy#DatingApps#Dating#QueerDatingApps#SurveillanceCapitalism#AgeVerification
Esther Payne :bisexual_flag:
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"It’s more than possible the answer to ‘why aren’t we compatible’ is flashing bright neon signs that you just aren’t actually looking at."
NEW blog: why did I get rejected?
"It’s more than possible the answer to ‘why aren’t we compatible’ is flashing bright neon signs that you just aren’t actually looking at."
NEW blog: why did I get rejected?
Dating: A Mysterious Constellation of Facts
#HackerNews #Dating #Mysterious #Constellation #Facts #Relationships #Love #Insights
phildini
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I was talking with a friend about the phenomenon of Finding Love in the Fediverse (I have several friends who have done it) — and he was shocked to hear it was even a thing.
That conversation's got me curious, so I want to open the question up:
Has anyone ever slid into your DMs respectfully and appropriately on Fedi? Have you ever initiated that kind of contact yourself?*
*I'm truly talking about appropriate, welcome, consensual connections, not randos harassing people. If you don't understand the distinction, I recommend that you stay out of this conversation and just quietly read and learn. (Anyone who responds with how women are mean to them will be recognized as a derailing troll and blocked accordingly -- hush, the adults are talking )
#AskFedi #AskMastodon #FediDating #FediSingles #MastodonDating #Romance #Dating #Relationships
I was talking with a friend about the phenomenon of Finding Love in the Fediverse (I have several friends who have done it) — and he was shocked to hear it was even a thing.
That conversation's got me curious, so I want to open the question up:
Has anyone ever slid into your DMs respectfully and appropriately on Fedi? Have you ever initiated that kind of contact yourself?*
*I'm truly talking about appropriate, welcome, consensual connections, not randos harassing people. If you don't understand the distinction, I recommend that you stay out of this conversation and just quietly read and learn. (Anyone who responds with how women are mean to them will be recognized as a derailing troll and blocked accordingly -- hush, the adults are talking )
#AskFedi #AskMastodon #FediDating #FediSingles #MastodonDating #Romance #Dating #Relationships
New dating app #charliekirk #kirk #antikirk #activism #antifascism #antifa #dating #antifadating #activism
jaz :twt: :wales_flag:
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I wrote a post about Trust & Safety that I have been meaning to write for a while, but @caseynewton wrote something recently that reminded me.
It acts as a useful mission statement for the advocacy organisation I am slowly creating, which I have talked about in a few interviews, but not gotten around to yet - The problems with C-PTSD and AuDHD in concert mean that everything comes at a glacial start :)
https://superhighwayman.com/2025/the-ones-who-thrive-in-omelas/
#Writing #TrustAndSafety#Blog#Security#Infosec#Advocacy#SocialMedia#Online#Dating #OnlineSafetyAct#Moderation#Wellness#Health#PTSD#ADHD #AuDHD#Omelas#SciFi#UrsulaLeGuin
I wrote a post about Trust & Safety that I have been meaning to write for a while, but @caseynewton wrote something recently that reminded me.
It acts as a useful mission statement for the advocacy organisation I am slowly creating, which I have talked about in a few interviews, but not gotten around to yet - The problems with C-PTSD and AuDHD in concert mean that everything comes at a glacial start :)
https://superhighwayman.com/2025/the-ones-who-thrive-in-omelas/
#Writing #TrustAndSafety#Blog#Security#Infosec#Advocacy#SocialMedia#Online#Dating #OnlineSafetyAct#Moderation#Wellness#Health#PTSD#ADHD #AuDHD#Omelas#SciFi#UrsulaLeGuin
