@oseiler yes. I think this is what I will do.
I agree that the best is to let the kiddo make their choice, and let them know which and why I've made mine.
@pezmico might want to add that you know everyone involved best and there might be other aspects to consider, eg for some kids it might be too much of a burden to decide or defend their decision. Allow people to change their mind or make exceptions - nobody is perfect and whatever way looks best now might not have been optimal in hindsight. Be kind. I'm sure you're a great role model and your little one will find their way.
