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There’s a truth I need you to sit with:
White male loneliness isn’t a crisis because it’s new.
It’s a crisis because it’s finally being named.
For generations, white men have been conditioned by the myth of white male supremacy to disconnect from their own humanity. Your socialization taught you that intimacy is weakness, that honesty is dangerous, and that community is something other people need…not you.
And now we’re watching men and boys crumble under the weight of that lie.
This is where To Learn. To Heal. To Engage. begins.
🔹 To Learn
You can’t reclaim what you’ve never been taught to value.
Learning is not an intellectual exercise it’s unlearning domination as your default. It’s expanding beyond competition, control, and avoidance. It’s understanding the cost of the systems you benefit from AND the cost they demand of you.
🔹 To Heal
Healing requires privacy…not secrecy.
White men need spaces where the work can be done without causing more harm. Spaces where you can confront your socialization, name what you lost, and finally feel what you were taught to bury. This isn’t comfort. It’s accountability with care.
🔹 To Engage
Engagement is not performative “allyship.”
It’s building community rooted in connection, not power. It’s practicing emotional maturity, learning to apologize, navigating conflict, seeking repair, and showing up without expecting reward.
It’s choosing humanity over hierarchy.
White men need community!
Not the kind you’ve inherited, but the kind you must build:
A community where you can make mistakes, learn from them, and grow without harming the people you claim to care about.
This is the work required for Life Beyond the Supremacy Myth.
And it’s work that cannot, and should not, be done alone.
Join us on Dec. 6th https://rsvp.lifebeyondthesupremacymyth.com/winter-2025
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