This is why binaries fail us all because this is definitely a “yes, and…” situation.

TRUTH:

The biggest problem that dudes, who benefit at the highest levels of systems, institutions, and policies rooted in the myth of white supremacy and patriarchy, have is the fact that women, in increasing numbers and across demographics, have in common is that we are no longer “buying the fairytale.”

What once felt like a righteous aspiration suddenly became something tangible; something I could strategize around, test, refine, and practice.

This is how Life Beyond the Supremacy Myth moved from idea → framework → lived possibility.

Because once you see clearly how the myth harms everyone, just differently, you can finally begin the work of building something new.

That is the myth of white supremacy at work.
Stealing your humanity while convincing you it’s a privilege.

So let this be your reminder as you continue the real, difficult, necessary work of building a consistent, demonstrated antiracist practice:

Joy. Play. Pleasure. Passion.
These are not extras.
They are not distractions.
They are not luxuries.

They are tools, critical, powerful tools, in your equity, justice, and liberation toolbox.

White men need community!

Not the kind you’ve inherited, but the kind you must build:
A community where you can make mistakes, learn from them, and grow without harming the people you claim to care about.

This is the work required for Life Beyond the Supremacy Myth.
And it’s work that cannot, and should not, be done alone.

Join us on Dec. 6th https://rsvp.lifebeyondthesupremacymyth.com/winter-2025

It’s a cultural signal: white male power seeks self-preservation first, principles second.

And as long as white men are allowed to dictate the terms of accountability, justice will remain secondary to comfort, control, and maintaining supremacy.

For those of us committed to dismantling these systems, institutions, and policies, the lesson is clear: do not be surprised, do not be complacent, and do not trust the promises of white men who have never been asked to truly give up power.

There is life beyond the myth of white supremacy.
And it’s time more of you learned how to live it.

Join me on December 6 for Life Beyond The Supremacy Myth: Redefining White Male Masculinity. A free event created for white men ready to do the work of becoming the kind of leaders a just future actually needs.

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I’m done with it.

I don’t care about your regret.

I care about the people who never had the luxury of pretending they didn’t know better.

I care about those who’ve been screaming the truth for decades…ignored, dismissed, and gaslit while you built empires on their labor and ideas.

White male mediocrity is not insight.

Your realization is not bravery.

And it’s still rooted in the same violence that got us here.