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And you, if you’re doing this work honestly, will mourn them. You’ll mourn who they were to you, who you hoped they might become, and the version of yourself that still believed you could make everyone see what you see.
That’s the cost of living by the principles of Profit Without Oppression and Life Beyond the Supremacy Myth.
It’s not a feel-good story. It’s not about winning people over. It’s about continuing anyway.
As your commitment to living differently deepens, as your awareness sharpens and your capacity for alignment expands, your world has to get smaller.
Not metaphorically.
Literally.
People you once trusted, worked beside, or loved will begin to fade from your life. Some will quietly pull away. Others will demand explanations you can’t give. And some will make your refusal to conform feel like betrayal.
It hurts.
Every time.
Because no matter how clear your values are, clarity doesn’t numb the pain of absence.
This is the part of liberation work most people avoid. It’s easier to talk about growth, awakening, or courage than to name the grief that comes when you realize you can’t carry everyone with you.
But you can’t.
The fear that keeps others from stepping into the unknown is often stronger than their desire for freedom. Their need for certainty will always find a way to make your conviction look impractical, unrealistic, or self-righteous. They’ll call their fear “logic.” They’ll frame their avoidance as “balance.” They’ll convince themselves that things “aren’t that bad.”
And you, if you’re doing this work honestly, will mourn them. You’ll mourn who they were to you, who you hoped they might become, and the version of yourself that still believed you could make everyone see what you see.
That’s the cost of living by the principles of Profit Without Oppression and Life Beyond the Supremacy Myth.
It’s not a feel-good story. It’s not about winning people over. It’s about continuing anyway.
Because while your world gets smaller, it also gets quieter.
More honest.
More aligned.
Fewer distractions.
Deeper connections.
Less noise.
More truth.
You will mourn what you lose.
But you will know, in your bones, that you did not abandon yourself to keep what was never meant to last.
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@KimCrayton1 I think there's always some part of us that feels judged when someone we know holds themselves to a standard we don't. If someone doesn't drink alcohol, or avoids exclusionary language, or joins a protest, we feel like they're requiring us to do the same. It doesn't matter how much they say they're only working on themselves, we're social beings and very sensitive to norms of behaviour.
If we're accustomed to privilege, we have the option of rejecting the person rather than adapting to new norms. It's telling that when we do that, we label them with terms that are actually positive: woke, politically correct, do-gooder, social justice warrior. We're implicitly acknowledging that they're right, we just don't like how that makes us feel about ourselves.
I feel like a useful question is always “But are they wrong?” Whether we think they're shrill, or condescending, or uppity, or puritanical… is anything they're saying actually incorrect, or just inconvenient?
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