Post
His messages intrigued me, so we jumped on a call. I wanted to hear more, specifically, how he was feeling in real time.
What he shared was proof that awareness can be taught:
He no longer felt safe in spaces that represented the status quo.
And while he felt uncomfortable being in an environment that didn’t center him, he also felt psychologically safe.
He said, “If I feel safe here, I can only imagine how much safer the people being centered must feel.”
That’s growth.
After working together for a while, he could recognize the intentionality behind what he was experiencing. That the organizers’ commitment to ensuring diversity wasn’t an afterthought, but an integral part of the entire design.
What he was really describing was community.
Something that the myth of white supremacy has trained white men to live without.
For many of you, community is unfamiliar terrain.
Every space you’ve been taught to value has been built around competition, control, and individual achievement.
Not connection.
Not care.
That’s why so many white men feel isolated, even when surrounded by people. The systems, institutions, and policies that privileges you also isolates you. It teaches you to dominate rather than to belong.
That’s why his story matters.
Because he chose the uncomfortable but safe option over the familiar need to be centered.
And I reminded him that with practice, his discomfort would fade while his sense of belonging, in diverse and compassion-centered spaces, would grow stronger.
Whiteness doesn’t do community.
But you can learn how.
That’s the work of PWO Community, creating spaces where white men can unlearn the conditioning that keeps them isolated and begin practicing what authentic connection feels like.
This is what living Life Beyond the Supremacy Myth looks like in real time: choosing collective care over control, courage over comfort, community over competition.
Are you ready to practice that kind of growth?
Join us on December 6th for Life Beyond the Supremacy Myth.
To Learn. To Heal. To Engage.
https://rsvp.lifebeyondthesupremacymyth.com/winter-2025
#MythOfWhiteSupremacy #LifeBeyondTheSupremacyMyth #BeyondMediocre #ProfitWithoutOppression #PWOCommunity #KimCrayton
A space for Bonfire maintainers and contributors to communicate
