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"Who should pay?"
CW: controversial.
Many men are poor. But women, as a group taken together, are poorer. And this is true in all countries in the world, not just those known for gendered oppression.
If you’re a man who’s interested in having more connection & understanding, I think it's important to consciously know this, “I am richer, in money terms, as a man, than most women are.”
(Refs at the end)
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In a similar way to how I must acknowledge, as a white person, that I’m richer than most Black and brown people are.
These dynamics help those who hold the most power to become richer, and they foster division among us.
In this thread, I’ll cover a bit of ground on the gender side of things...
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#Patriarchy #Money #BlackLivesMatter #Feminism #SocialJustice
There's a dilemma when it comes to male/female relationships.
Because of our cultural abandonment of children and our collective focus on power and competing (both cornerstones of our society, and yet oddly taboo as a conversational topic), most children grow up without the levels of love and support they need to thrive.
Including, of course, boys.
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Mothers, who are expected to provide unconditional love and support, in our society either lack:
1. Freedom to do so, e.g. in your average traditional nuclear family, or
2. Time to do so, if they’re also working for money, or
3. Money to do so - money is important when it comes to love and support, as without it you’re homeless, foodless, comfortless.
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This is due to the (intentionally) unpaid and invisible nature of parenting, despite it being hard and time-consuming labor.
(More on this in my article, 'Should parents be paid:'
https://www.neurofabulous.org.uk/should-parents-be-paid.html)
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Mothers are, in effect, forced into a corner.
They may end up with no.1 above, and then have no choice but to use coercive & unhealthy mechanisms on their children to sustain the situation (they’re heavily expected, even forced, to use power over their children to make them do things; such as go to school, tidy their rooms, study, be a well-greased cog in the ‘machine’… etc.).
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