#stoicism fails for me a lot but I still use it.
It is useful to me as a rational starting point but is not usually the useful answer.
Take for example the following scenarios.
I'm at work and a colleague in a different department in a different building who doesn't know what I do day to day makes a comment too loud that they "don't believe he even works here." Meanwhile I had been busting my ass on a project they're not involved in.
The stoic control test says they are outside of my control and therefore I shouldn't be bothered.
Another scenario.
A remote project manager is unhappy with my responses to his questions because I am busy working a major project and simply don't have time to talk. I don't report to him or his department but his pull at the company meant that when my project was finished and I was up for a raise, it was denied because of his input.
Now the stoic control test says I shouldn't let that bother me. I should simply work harder or leave.
But that simply isn't satisfying.
The stoic control test is a good means of calming me down but being unbothered isn't what I want. I want to harness this injustice. Use the corporate resources to skill up. Become imbedded in vital work flows. Then demand double the raise once I've secured a better offer.
Hell, maybe I'll even try to unionize.
I don't want to be tranquil about this I want to be mad damn it!
