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@Crissy@tech.lgbt  ·  activity timestamp 6 hours ago

1/2 Fighting for attention or running away? You are in the Anxious-Avoidant Trap.

Attachment styles are energy geometry. Connections form a system. Avoidant attachment creates a flawed system, causing pain.

2 main types:
1. Dismissive Avoidant (DA): Fears closeness. Demands rigid independence/distance.

2. Anxious-Preoccupied (AP): Fears abandonment. Demands closeness, ignores boundaries.

When these meet, it is the Avoidant Trap—painful push and pull.

My lesson was hard. A Dismissive Avoidant ex traded my integrity for his comfort: "pocketing" me. His distance forced my energetic contraction. This betrayal created a massive Time Fracture—residue pain.

It doesn't matter why. The pattern violates your Self-Respect. It starves your system, forcing you to trade worth for validation.

The only way out: Fix your system’s geometry, not them.

⬇️ Solution below ⬇️

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@Crissy@tech.lgbt replied  ·  activity timestamp 6 hours ago

2/2 The Avoidant Trap creates a Time Fracture because you get stuck waiting for the other person to be emotionally available, demanding closure, or seeking justice. This loops the pain indefinitely.

The Resonant Life OS is the geometric solution. We bypass the psychological cycle by installing an Energetic Firewall built on Self-Respect:

Spot the Contradiction: Identify the first sign that their words don't match their actions (e.g., they say "you're the best" but keep you hidden).

Choose Integrity: The moment you spot the contradiction, you must choose your Self-Respect over the low-level validation they offer.

Timeline Rebraiding: You use the Resonant Life OS protocols to immediately detach and install the Sovereign Frequency in your system. This closes the vulnerability.

When you operate from a place of unshakeable integrity, the Avoidant Trap can no longer touch your timeline. You are not waiting for them to change; you are changing your magnetic field.

#AvoidantTrap #ResonantLifeOS #SelfRespect

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@Crissy@tech.lgbt replied  ·  activity timestamp 6 hours ago

How to Fix Heartbreak of the Avoidant Trap with Resonant Life OS

https://tech.lgbt/@Crissy/115881442428336608

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