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Stefano Marinelli
@stefano@mastodon.bsd.cafe  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

This Isn't a Battle

After reading a post describing the FreeBSD community as 'toxic', I share a different perspective. This isn't a battle. It's a reflection on coexistence, the original Open Source spirit, and the quiet richness of taking a different path.

https://my-notes.dragas.net/2025/11/14/this-isnt-a-battle/

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This Isn't a Battle | MyNotes

After reading a post describing the FreeBSD community as 'toxic', I share a different perspective. This isn't a battle. It's a reflection on coexistence, the original Open Source spirit, and the quiet richness of taking a different path.
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Recovered Expert
@RecoveredExpert@mastodon.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 20 hours ago

@stefano It‘s not just the value of stability: There‘s the architectural approach, consistency, diversity and more.
Let me borrow terms from „the danish axe“ to describe my perception of this: there’s a place and need for both the bazaar and the cathedral. However, *some* of the bazaar lovers don’t seem to be interested in/able to understand why cathedrals even exist, why people building them take different architectural aproaches and the diversity of different types of them serves a purpose.

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Recovered Expert
@RecoveredExpert@mastodon.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 20 hours ago

@stefano Obfuscation for <reasons>. I think you get the reference.

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: j@fabrica:~/src; :t_blink:
@josephholsten@mstdn.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano I had a great conversation the other day with some FreeBSD folks about how to position it competitively when the user believes they need k8s instead.
Sure, plenty of k8s flame was thrown, but at the end we agreed that for the user’s particular needs (some workloads were Linux only codebases, multi-cloud deployment not cost-optimized) k8s was really a better choice than nomad+jails or a custom orchestration setup.

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Stefano Marinelli
@stefano@mastodon.bsd.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@josephholsten exactly. A couple of days ago I proposed to a client a new virtualization server (actually three). It will be powered by Proxmox as the client needs a management interface and is moving some manually created KVM qcow2 files.
I'll probably propose bhyve when Sylve will be ready but, for now, their problem will be solved by using Proxmox. And I'm happy it will, and I'm happy to do it.

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Diane Bruce
@DianeBruce@bsd.network replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano Great post!

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Steven Rosenberg
@passthejoe@ruby.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano The BSD communities in the Fediverse are extremely welcoming and helpful. That's one of the perks I've found when running OpenBSD and FreeBSD (and reading about NetBSD) -- pretty much everybody is there to support each other.

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Steven Rosenberg
@passthejoe@ruby.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano I'm a hobbyist and here for fun, not necessarily profit. As long as I enjoy the tech and the community, I remain.

Most of my community for BSD is in the Fediverse, and you couldn't ask for a nicer group of people.

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Pau Amma
@pauamma@mstdn.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano I'm glad for you that you haven't had damaging encounters with toxic people in the FreeBSD community or their enablers.

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Stefano Marinelli
@stefano@mastodon.bsd.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@pauamma oh, I have. I never said that there are no toxic people in the BSD community. There are. But the majority is composed of great people, all around the world.
So I'd not say it's a toxic community because of some bad people. Even if toxicity should never be a part (even if small) of a healthy community.

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Pau Amma
@pauamma@mstdn.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano Sorry you were. I may have misread you, too. I got the impression you were acknowledging their existence but hadn't personally been affected by them.

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Pink Panther
@pinkopanterata@techhub.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano
Stefano, this person is maybe a the bigger FreeBSD hater from many years...
https://vez.mrsk.me/freebsd-defaults

FreeBSD - a lesson in poor defaults

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Stefano Marinelli
@stefano@mastodon.bsd.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@pinkopanterata yes, I've encountered this page in the past

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Ricardo Martín :bsdhead:
@ricardo@mastodon.bsd.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano I really wonder *where* Yorick interacted with those alleged BSD users ... Twitter?, Reddit? 🙈

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Stefano Marinelli
@stefano@mastodon.bsd.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@ricardo I think discord.

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Graham Perrin
@grahamperrin@mastodon.bsd.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano @ricardo the article mentioned the FreeBSD subreddit and The FreeBSD Forums.

Yorick Peterse shared his post in the sub, where it was very well-received. Pictured: insights that are not visible to the public (I very rarely share such things, doing so seems harmless on this occasion).

No mention of Discord, Twitter, or X.

Also pictured: the wiki for FreeBSD Discord very recently cautioned that the FreeBSD Community Code of Conduct can not be enforced. I do not imagine that this caution relates to any recent misconduct there …

<https://www.freebsd.org/internal/code-of-conduct/>

<https://wiki.freebsd.org/Discord/DiscordServer>

<https://yorickpeterse.com/>

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Caution: The FreeBSD Discord server is managed entirely by volunteers unaffiliated with the FreeBSD Project.  The FreeBSD Project has no way of enforcing its code of conduct on the server.  The text below was written by the server administrators, not by Project members or officers. …
Caution: The FreeBSD Discord server is managed entirely by volunteers unaffiliated with the FreeBSD Project. The FreeBSD Project has no way of enforcing its code of conduct on the server. The text below was written by the server administrators, not by Project members or officers. …
Caution: The FreeBSD Discord server is managed entirely by volunteers unaffiliated with the FreeBSD Project. The FreeBSD Project has no way of enforcing its code of conduct on the server. The text below was written by the server administrators, not by Project members or officers. …
Screenshot: a moderator view of insights for the post by Yorick Peterse. 95% up-voted.
Screenshot: a moderator view of insights for the post by Yorick Peterse. 95% up-voted.
Screenshot: a moderator view of insights for the post by Yorick Peterse. 95% up-voted.
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Timo Geusch
@tgeusch@social.vivaldi.net replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano thanks for your post.

I had read the post you're referencing yesterday, and had come away with a certain sense of unease. Thanks for putting some words to the unease, because after further reflection it really is the "battle" aspect where the unease came from. That, and the unnecessary and gratuitous side swipes like the "boomer" references.

Part of this may have come from the fact that I've got a bit of PTSD from an ex-manager who liked to make development tooling decisions based on what tool was "winning" in the marketplace, with only scant consideration if we already had working and suitable tooling...

At the end of the day, the ecosystem grows richer and stronger if we have alternatives large and small instead of the system to rule them all that would eventually need to be tossed into a volcano.

I say this as someone who uses Windows, macOS, several flavours of Linux, FreeBSD and OpenBSD at this time and would probably run an old Solaris box somewhere if he could find a use for it.

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Stefano Marinelli
@stefano@mastodon.bsd.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@tgeusch This is the uneasy feeling I had yesterday evening. I started writing the post this morning because I wanted to sleep on it. The original author did not write a bad or offensive post, and it reflects their experience so I respect that. Still, it feels more like a rant against a couple of people who behaved poorly or were unwilling to change FreeBSD because they believed there was a better way to do things.
Anyway, I am glad when people write these posts if they feel the need to. This way we get to see different points of view, and that helps all of us.

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Timo Geusch
@tgeusch@social.vivaldi.net replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano Very good point that the original post wasn’t bad or offensive, and in a sense I wished the author had had a better experience.

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Stefano Marinelli
@stefano@mastodon.bsd.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@tgeusch Exactly.

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Pete Orrall
@peteorrall@mastodon.bsd.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano Great post! I've been using #Linux #FreeBSD for about two decades and want to share my experiences. For context, Linux became my daily driver and I dabbled in FreeBSD on the side.

As a newcomer to both the #technology and #culture of #Linux and the BSDs, *back then* there was more toxicity. And by toxicity I mean abrasive and unhelpful responses ("RTFM!") or some kind of "l337" attitudes in various mailing lists and forums. This, of course, was before YouTube and Reddit, where the former mediums were more prevalent.

Some Linux distros were friendlier than others. In those days, the #Debian mailing lists and forums were a rough place for newcomers and it drove a lot of people away. I left the forums because of that. I rarely post to the mailing lists but for other reasons.

At some point, there was considerable effort to improve the etiquette in said mediums, particularly the mailing lists. Sure, some fiery disagreements can take place but overall people are friendly and welcoming.

FreeBSD, on the other hand, has been a more positive experience. Yes, there are people who are vocal about their contempt for Linux, but they aren't disrespectful to other people.

Having witnessed both communities grow and change over the years, there's definitely less toxicity and FreeBSD is still a more welcoming community.

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Milly
@aanee@mastodon.online replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano ...and this is why I'm moving more and more toward the BSDs; it still got the open source spirit Linux had when I first encountered it.

The use of "is better" is always interesting, based on what? Though I've definitely been there back when I was a Linux evangelist in my teenage years.

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vermaden
@vermaden@mastodon.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano

My part from Quare FreeBSD about FreeBSD Community below.

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Thomas
@tfb@functional.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano They're calling Unix users "tech boomers" and apparently it's the BSD communities that are the toxic ones?!?!

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fyrfaras
@fyrfaras@m.fru.bar replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano and yet, topics such as XLibre are welcomed and promoted. Every objection against it due to justified moral reasons or discussions is silenced with technical hypocrisy.
Just because it's a binary pile of things doesn't take away the fact that it was made by humans with believes and feelings. Those mushy factors are interfused with every software project in existence.
As a BSD user this makes me somber and gives me the perspective that some peeps are reactionary and to some extend toxic.

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Ángel
@angel@triptico.com replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

I totally agree with you: I've found the BSD community welcoming and peaceful, and I also don't consider it adverse to innovation and change (or maybe the "level of desire to change" matches mine).

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Vladimir
@contaminase@mastodon.bsd.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano The mere fact that recurrently it's necessary to state that the OS/tech is not a religion is somehow boggling.

Though, 10 years ago I'd loved schooling my peers that you are a brainlet unless you run Linux.

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Raven
@raven@mastodon.bsd.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano Great article Stefano!

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Stefano Marinelli
@stefano@mastodon.bsd.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@raven thank you!

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Gnoufou
@etienne_obriot@bsd.network replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano well written! I found myself the *bsd communities very welcoming when I came to freebsd in late 2018. I feel there is a lot less toxicity - maybe because the community is also smaller than that of the various Linux distributions. Regarding the fact that it is not a batlle - I remember the time we had more than a dozen of window managers available, all differents, and no one thought it was bad - it was a key benefit : make what you want with your computer, make it your own. Maybe I ´m an old boomer, but I find that it’s a bit too standardized now… :)

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pki
@pki@mastodon.bsd.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano My personal reflection on the [Free]BSD community is that it is mature, friendly and not very "noisy". I guess it's in the eye of the .... and so on. 😍 bsdhead

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qwertz
@qwertz@defcon.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano

Reading your article, I was able to identify the type of character depicted in the other article you cited.

Unfortunately, for some time now, a segment of the Linux community—let's call it the "mainstream"—has been increasingly espousing this "if it's new and shiny, it's good; if it's old, it's therefore bad and no longer efficient" sentiment (I won't mention which community; those who want to know will understand).

"They don't want to accept the new" is now used by these individuals as a synonym for "you're forced to accept this new software because we've decided it's better, and that's it." It's no longer a question of being able to decide whether or not to use this or that software; you're forced to accept it, the communities of these "old software" or those who merely fork it are being denigrated and censored.

Right below your article, I was offered this other article from this summer that connects well with this one and sums up the current situation nicely.

https://my-notes.dragas.net/2025/06/19/from-collaborators-to-consumers-have-we-killed-the-soul-of-open-source/

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The Psychotic Network Ferret
@nuintari@mastodon.bsd.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano The BSDs change, but never just for change's sake itself. New ideas are carefully vetted before consideration for inclusion. A new idea has to pass a test that goes beyond, "this shit stuck to the wall," before it has any chance at acceptance.

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h4890
@h4890@liberdon.com replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@stefano Interesting. It is my experience, following from the side lines, that anyone remitely conservative or christian, is aggressively being hated upon and hounded in many open source communities.

I think perhaps only OpenBSD and most likely Omarchy are two communities where these groups are allowed to be themselves.

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