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Tinker ☀️
Tinker ☀️
@tinker@infosec.exchange  ·  activity timestamp last year

Folks have asked me how to find and build community.

Here is a very pragmatic and approachable way to find the community in your local town or neighborhood.

A little of bit of the concept with a focus on praxis.

So if you're new to community and mutual aid, don't think about what you can build. You're going to be wrong. People have already tried what you're thinking and dropped it back at version 0.3 - Everyone is on 8.2c right now.

So join what exists. Once you get good at it, then you can build out from there - with the knowledge of what is actually needed and works.

Quick note: Things are working. You're just not hearing about it via corporate news. Because it doesn't make those corps money. But its working and has been working. Glad you are joining us now! I think you'll be very pleasantly surprised as what exists around you and what you've been missing out on. Everyone joins at some point. Glad you're here now.

How do you find what exists?

The simple answer is, via community. But you haven't joined the community, so how do you find community without the community!

Since you're here, on the internet, let's start with the internet.

One thing: Folks building and running mutual aid aren't always building and running websites. They're meeting actual people doing physical things in the world. So their websites suck. Also, putting things out publicly runs the risk of inviting the nose of town government and their police forces. Sometimes posting publicly is a *BAD IDEA*. So they don't. You understand OpSec. They understand it better.

But, you certainly can start on the internet to find a "doorway".

Mutual Aid and community is DISTINCTLY DIFFERENT from charities/non-profits. I won't go into it here, but the two (mutual aid and charities/non-profits) aren't the same and actually opposed to each other.

Buuuuuut.....

Folks overlap between the two.

So I might focus on mutual aid, but I'll work with some charities because their apparatus furthers a mutual aid goal in the immediacy.

With that in mind, you can search out charities on the internet. They are well established there and are often upheld by local govt and churches. So they're protected.

Certainly go find some charities that align with your "one thing" (the thing you'll focus on now until you learn about more).

The big thing though, is the charity is not the goal. The people that work there are the goal. You are building a network. So go and meet people but BE FUCKING CHILL about your goals. You start spouting off mutual aid and bad things happen. So just be quiet and listen (this being quiet and listening is going to be your main skill to develop for a long while... so embrace it now).

You'll mostly find old boomers in retirement and religious folks with some politicians. They are charity folks. Great. But you're looking for folks that don't fit those molds. You're looking for the hippies, the socialists, the anarchists, the folks who have grown up poor and now have some means. "One of these things is not like the other". Find the anomalies and follow *their* lead.

You're going to sit in these charities for months while you meet people. Listen to "small talk". If it's related to religion, enjoy learning about your neighbors and what motivates them.

But if it's apparatus building and working with other groups, those are the conversations you want to join in on.

I'll say that again:

If the conversation is about WORKING WITH OTHER GROUPS on shared goals... get in on that. I don't care if its other charities. Get in on it.

After a while, you'll start meeting folks that are building real mutual aid. Learn the initiatives in your area and you'll find and settle into the groups that are doing work but not advertising on social media about it.

So.

Where to start?

Pick one of the following areas (there are more, but these are entry points):
- Food.
- Homeless outreach.
- Literacy / schooling.
- Political access and voting.

Just pick one area and find groups that do that thing. Don't worry about picking the right one. You're going to be moving around for a bit while you learn, so its fine. They all flow.

For Food: Find your local Food Bank and Food Pantries. Feeding America is a good start. Look there. Food Banks need lots of volunteers. Find a thing you can do and do it. Local churches act as Food Pantries. Go to those and help hand out food. If you're really lucky, find a place that makes and serves hot food. DO THAT!!! You'll get real close to mutual aid right away.

For Homeless outreach, look up local shelters - sure. Shelters tend TO ABSOLUTELY SUCK!!! So your mileage may vary. Look for places that gather up clothes and coats and hand them out. Look for places that serve the homeless communities and do that.

For Literacy and schooling, look up various elementary schools, libraries, and the same. After school programs for children. Boys and Girls clubs and the like as well. If you have kids, talk with your school counselors and ask them about the school programs that serve under-privileged families.

For political access and voting, don't join a political party. Instead find local orgs that focus on registering people for voting. The NAACP shines in this. You don't have to be black to join the NAACP. Local DSA (Democratic Socialists of America) are also a good place to look.

Great. So how do you find them?

A quick note on internet searches just to get it out of the way: Search for "city or town name" and:
- "food bank"
- "food pantry"
- "mutual aid"
- "after school programs"
- "voter advocacy"
- "homeless shelter"
- "women's shelter"
- "town resources"
- "library"

On that last note: The BEST PLACE TO START is your local library.

Just go hang out in the library for a while. They post A LOT of stuff for the town. Classes, resources, groups, events, etc. And by "post" I actually mean physical posts. Fliers on the wall and on physical "announcement boards". The librarians themselves are great. Just ask them. They're there to help. Literally.

In fact, don't approach looking for these groups as a volunteer (I hate that word). Don't approach them as a person looking to contribute and build.

Instead, approach these groups as a person who could benefit from them. So for food, ask the librarians to help you find "food pantries for distributions". The libraries are geared to help the community. So get all the info on that, and then flip it around and go to the food pantries and ask how you can help.

So. Internet search for groups is an okay start. But go to the local library and ask.

All you need is ONE WAY in. Once you find some sort of group doing something - anything... go there. Then meet the people. Find a stray community worker that also works there and learn from them. Then find out about the other groups that meet and are building and doing. Go to those in person meetings and spread from there.

(Ask questions in this thread and I and others will give you ideas.)

Also, if you need help finding those initial groups, DM me with your town name and I'll give you a list of groups that you can start with.

#solarPunk #mutualAid #community

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EverydayHuman(I0)
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@everyday_human@infosec.exchange replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 weeks ago

@tinker
Hey Tink how have you been!
Looks like you have been busy. I’m slowly climbing out of the winter funk. I wanted to say hello and thank you for being you! The world is a better place with you in it!

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@ThreeSigma@mastodon.online replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 weeks ago

@tinker
This post is great and, to me, entirely disheartening. I have no chance of accomplishing any of this.

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Tinker ☀️
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@tinker@infosec.exchange replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 days ago

@ThreeSigma - Two thoughts come to mind.

First is, if you want to do something, don't try and do everything... or even a lot. Don't try to build if you can join what already exists. Don't try to do something every week if you can only do something once a month. Every tiny bit counts. A small thing once a month goes so far. Even if its just donating $5 to a food bank.

Second thing is... if you can't do anything at all. That is TOTALLY okay. Maybe there is something you can use from your local neighborhood. Maybe you could benefit from using a food bank or taking advantage of the library, etc.

But all of that aside. Take care of yourself. Surviving is a big deal.

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Mark Hughes
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@markhughes@mastodon.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 weeks ago

@tinker I recently moved from a UK city to a tiny rural village, via a few years on a canal boat.

I'm not naturally social so for years most has been online, but always also with one or two neighbours and acquaintances. On occasions I "looked".

Until now. I wasn't so much looking but hoping *this time* I might make more local friends, but wasn't expecting it.

I've been so welcomed in this village. It feels like going back in time.

Just by being here out & about with my dog.

It still exists.

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Tinker ☀️
Tinker ☀️
@tinker@infosec.exchange replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 weeks ago

@markhughes - thats so wonderful!

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DuplexMismatch
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@duplexmismatch@infosec.exchange replied  ·  activity timestamp 3 weeks ago

@tinker Thankee. Thankee much for the tips. I hope to make them useful

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Shannon Clark
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@Rycaut@mastodon.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 3 weeks ago

@tinker one additional approach I would suggest that pairs with this is to get to know your very close by neighbors - the other residents of your apartment building or block. Not immediately in a mutual aid context but rather in forming some regular neighborhood (or building wide) shared social activity (block party is a big but usually only once a year) better is something more frequent. The goal being to both get to know each other and build a shared group communication channel

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Shannon Clark
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@Rycaut@mastodon.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 3 weeks ago

@tinker then over time such high trust groups often lend themselves to informal mutual aid as well (it might start with helping find a lost dog but soon becomes how people first give extras away or organize to help others in the neighborhood. I’ve seen this on the very hyperlocal scale with what started first with the moms on my current block getting together for porch evening bring your own drinks gatherings during early COVID. That list now is used for neighbors helping each other in many ways

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kasdeya
kasdeya
@kasdeya@cryptid.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 3 weeks ago

@tinker the way this post is written, it sounds like mutual aid groups are some kind of underground resistance movement that the cops are actively trying to infiltrate and shut down. is that really how it is? why would the cops even care that much, and what crime(s) could a mutual aid group be accused of breaking anyway?

what would happen if I just volunteered at a charity and was completely open and honest about being interested in mutual aid and about not being a Christian? I hate lying or misleading people

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Tinker ☀️
Tinker ☀️
@tinker@infosec.exchange replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 weeks ago

@kasdeya - Coming back to this thread, sorry for the late response.

But yeah! Right?! So two examples, one historical and another more recent.

When the Black Panthers started up a mutual aid program to feed school children free breakfast, they put all the food in a local church to prepare for the next day. The local police went into the church and urinated on all the food in an attempt to destroy the program.

More recently, we see police coming down hard on mutual aid groups trying to feed the hungry. Houston Food Not Bombs was getting a ticket EACH TIME they fed people. They were in the upper hundreds of tickets last I checked.

Long and short, if your mutual aid group is undercutting the social order (which is where we all individually get our resources from corporations), then the local town and police may step in.

That said, you, personally, can join a charity group and feed people. Certainly. Charity groups don't solve the underlying *reason* why hunger (or whatever else they're serving) exists in the first place, but they can help people in the immediacy. So go for it.

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Jessamyn
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@jessamyn@glammr.us replied  ·  activity timestamp 3 weeks ago

@tinker I am a small town anarchist librarian and I appreciate the library shout-out! We have a community fridge and sometimes just talking about it on the usual platforms can help bring resources (food) to people who need it.

One thing I tell people is just to find a way to meet with people f2f for basically anything (board games, supper club, walking group, dog playtime). Once you're there ask "How can we help with X?" and then see if you can seek out resources or folx who are working on X.

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Dan Fixes Coin-Ops
Dan Fixes Coin-Ops
@ifixcoinops@retro.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 3 weeks ago

@tinker this was a damn good post, very nuts-and-bolts. I can echo that round here at least (Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, USA) library noticeboards are Good Shit

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Deer Witch Nyx
Deer Witch Nyx
@moss@kind.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 3 weeks ago

@tinker Genuine: How does this adapt for disabled people with chronic fatigue & can’t get out of the house easily?

How can we let irl mutual aid groups know we exist & be a part of them?

For folks w/ my conditions I’m lucky that I can occasionally leave the house. I’ve tried to sooooo-slowly build community at my zen Buddhist center. Ppl are kind & accommodating when I can make it there physically, but that’s <1/mo these days. I also talk to a librarian who wears an N95 for 5 minutes once/2mo.

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Tinker ☀️
Tinker ☀️
@tinker@infosec.exchange replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 weeks ago

@moss - This is such a key question and a big part of mutual aid... key part on the mutual. You should be able to GET help as well as RECEIVE help.

@emma@fedi.emmjuettner.com has already answered and I'll pitch in my thoughts.

Their first point stands and I'll repeat for emphasis. See what exists that YOU can benefit from. And utilize it. Utilizing mutual aid means you can gain more spoons and be better rested, healed, and supported long term. It's the whole point of mutual aid. So be on the receiving end of it.

In America, we're pushed this cult of individualism which intentionally removes us from community. That means we lose our economies of scale and support networks. Which then, intentionally, means we're atomized and HAVE TO get all of our needs met through corporations.

So find ways to get your needs met without having to lose your money to corps.

Find ways to USE mutual aid.

The second point that Emma makes, which I'll add onto (again for emphasis) is, there is SO much to do that is within your abilities. We have one person in our group that only does social media. They take pictures posted onto our chat and then posts them up onto the social media feeds. That's amazing. We have someone else who is going through national chains and seeing if they have food rescue programs and then applying to them. She does this as she has time. It greatly helps.

I'll finish with this: DONT go outside your comfort zone.

I'll say that again. Only do what you are ABLE to do. And only do what you have energy to do.

If you do one tiny thing a month... and take a break for three months. That's huge.

Find something that you can do that doesn't take up too much spoons and that you are able to do withOUT consistency and still help.

Think "project" based, not time based. Find a small easily-for-you-to-complete project that can be done within a reasonable amount of time (reasonable being your personal definition). And then do it as, and only as, you are able.

You'd be damned surprised how much you can accomplish in this way.

We don't want perfection.
We don't want highest utilization and peak efficienty.
We want you to be fulfilled and give and receive as you are able and as you need.

#solarPunk #mutualAid

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🧙🏽‍♀️Nýkτıméηı (she, her)
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@muiren@sfba.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 weeks ago

@tinker @moss
I was born during 1950s Jim Crow, my grandparents, born from 1900 to 1910, believed in cooperative mutualism, like Kropotkin described.

Today, I am often attacked personally for valuing mutual aid as working together for a shared common good, cooperating for food, for housing, for medical care.

Nowhere does that remotely suggest we shouldn't help others with indivudual cricumstances, it just means mutual aid must have a broader definition than crowdfunded self-interest.

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@moss@kind.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 weeks ago

@tinker @fedi.emmjuettner.com Thank you so much HeartDisability

At first I was like “what would I get aid for?” bc I feel privileged to be able to pay house cleaners 1x 2wk for what I can’t do, or scrape together for delivery from farmers market & restos. I tell others they deserve more than to survive, I needed the nudge too

If I was less worried abt food prep or home care—or those things could be more ethical, frequent, or low spoon I cld redistro my spoons/$ to more meaningful places too

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Tinker ☀️
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@tinker@infosec.exchange replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 weeks ago

@moss - exactly.

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K-ZO da Snowman
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@kzodasnowman@spore.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 weeks ago

@tinker @moss I like Rebecca Solnit's view; it's not about direction of aid, but because we share something in mutual. For example, me giving money to a mutual aid fund for Palestinians is more accurately described as redistribution. I'm a well paid person in the imperial core, I'm not going to be asking for money from them. But it is mutual aid because both giver and recipient share values of Palestinian survival. Mutual in building relationships.

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Tinker ☀️
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@tinker@infosec.exchange replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 weeks ago

@kzodasnowman @moss - i like that

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Emma
Emma
@emma@fedi.emmajuettner.com replied  ·  activity timestamp 3 weeks ago

@moss @tinker

A few possible ideas that may or may not work for your specific situation, take them if they sound helpful or feel free to disregard if not applicable:

- if your local community has a mask bloc or other community group that distributes supplies like masks/air purifiers/etc, those groups are often much more disability-aware than others

- receiving aid is also a part of being involved in mutual aid! If there are things that groups in your area provide that would help with any of the impacts of your disability (e.g. grocery deliveries, etc), being on the receiving side rather than the volunteering side can be a way to still build bonds with the community

- some groups have a need for people in remote communication/organization/etc roles. For example, I volunteer with a food distro that has people who call or text people receiving food to confirm if they need a delivery that week, or text drivers to let them know which addresses they're delivering to, or post to a WhatsApp thread of volunteers asking who's available on a specific day to pick up donated food. So looking for volunteer tasks that can be done remotely and on a flexible schedule could be one way to get involved. Another one I can think of is writing letters to people in prison, there are a number of anticarceral mutual aid groups that do things like that

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Dan
Dan
@dank@jorts.horse replied  ·  activity timestamp 4 weeks ago

@tinker thank you for this!! a few additions (it honestly feels like a cheat code):

bikeshops are chockablock with the most radical people you've ever met that have a sense of humor

tool libraries are like makerspaces for regular folks that aren't looking for a 3d printer/CNC timeshare

mask-blocs are a great way to find covid-conscious folks and events in your area

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wauz ワウズ
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@wauz@mastodon.de replied  ·  activity timestamp last month

@tinker
Setting up a honeypot is the very start

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@MaQuest@mastodon.green replied  ·  activity timestamp last month

@tinker Thanks, once again, for posting. Tagging this for next weekend's #SolarPunkSunday. Some very useful comments too.

#CommunityBuilding #Community #CommunityEngagement

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