Self-hosting is a dreadful choice for many people, for anything that they actually care about.
Annoyingly, *not* self-hosting stuff is also not a panacea, and generally entails picking the least worst option (which can be challenging in itself), and then understanding what one *still* needs to do to mitigate the risks of that choice.
There is no single good choice and - sadly - I do not see that changing any time soon.
I'd love to be wrong here.
@neil gonna suggest a new phrasing that *could* address this,
https://masto.hackers.town/@socketwench/117344011880189109