Sometimes it's hard not to be reactive in the replies.

Women get reply guys all the time. In real life & online.

Some have more patience than others. For me, repeated abuse throughout my lifetime has made my skin thinner, not thicker.

So when ppl offer unsolicited advice, or when I don't mention every possible permutation of something up front...if ppl act as if that means I'm ignorant of it or think it unimportant, I can have a reaction that may seem out of proportion to the reply.

But that's because this is cumulative. For people marginalized in one or more ways, in person and online, replies happen against a background of genuinely having one's expertise & work disrespected regularly.

So if you think you're getting blasted without having earned it, it's possible you're right. Maybe. But when replying to marginalized people here, think about that mountain of reply guy stuff first and whether you want to be mistaken for the reply guy that started an avalanche. #9ReplyGuys