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Tattie
@Tattie@eldritch.cafe  ·  activity timestamp yesterday

What you've got to understand about this is that it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. We tell boys "oh you can't help being violent, it's just in your nature", and then they go out and do violence, and we say "well this just proves it".

It's a core part of what we call the "boys will be boys" phenomenon, where we forgive any manner of misbehaviour from boys and men, and shift the responsibility onto women and girls. We blame what a girl was wearing, or the fact that women keep refusing to go out with some dude. Or we blame mothers. It never seems to land on the guys themselves. 2/

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Mx. Luna Corbden
@corbden@defcon.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 24 hours ago

@Tattie All manner of other aggressive behaviors are actively *encouraged* in boys from childhood. In sports, schooling, outdoors, dating, and in many cases they're encouraged to or rewarded for bullying so long as they don't take it too far or bully a higher status person. Later in the workplace. Rewards for aggressive social behaviors abound for most boys.

#AbuseCulture

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Tattie
@Tattie@eldritch.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp yesterday

I remember when this was first pointed out to me years ago, and then suddenly I started seeing it everywhere. Even progressive female friends were perpetuating it. I was flabbergasted.

"Boys will be boys" is insidious, and "testosterone causes violence" is the scientific-sounding gloss of it. 3/

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Tattie
@Tattie@eldritch.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp yesterday

When a human being, of any gender, is allowed to operate without accountability, they go nucking futs. (Technical term.) Look at Musk. Look at Trump. Look at the manosphere.

They've got to be told "no". And they've got to learn to understand it. 4/

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Tattie
@Tattie@eldritch.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp yesterday

I was never a man, but I had standard male testosterone levels for decades. I was never violent. I wasn't afforded the toxic forgiveness for my misdeeds that a lot of men around me were.

Testosterone may make you hungry, horny, hot, and hairy. But it doesn't make you violent.
Fin/

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Tattie
@Tattie@eldritch.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 18 hours ago

Wow. Someone below boosting this thread, then indulging in violent revenge fantasies on it. The level of obliviousness is off the scale.

Part of the problem, mate. You're part of the fucking problem.

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