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@Crissy@tech.lgbt  ·  activity timestamp 3 weeks ago

1of2: Doing nothing is the ultimate power move for your health this year.

If you are skipping parties and staying home, you aren't being a hermit. You are practicing essential Emotional Hygiene.

This need for quiet is driven by a biological process called Sensory Gating. It is your brain’s natural ability to filter out background noise so you can stay calm and focused.

When you are overwhelmed, this "gate" gets stuck open. Every conversation feels too loud and every plan feels like a heavy weight.

Choosing to be alone is how you manually close that gate to let your system reset. In my Resonant Life OS, choosing peace is a fundamental act of self-respect.

It is the practical choice to stop the drain on your frequency before you reach total burnout.

You are not "missing out" on life; you are building the foundation so you can actually live it truthfully later.

When you honour your privacy, you tell yourself that your peace is worth more than any invitation.

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@dianea@lgbtqia.space replied  ·  activity timestamp 3 weeks ago

@Crissy

I used to be an extrovert, but after covid hit, I'm now a professional introvert engineer, researching every available engineering and sciences research I can to be safe. I want the old life, enjoying endless nights with large groups friends, expanding our circles of engagement, new activities for our after work memories. But now, I see the devastation that happens when the health of one person takes a hit, each time, over and over. It's like a video game, but there is no cheat mode, there are no extra lives, friends and coworkers are taken away permanently by this viral pathogen.

I'm one of those who both masks and isolates. I cherish the memories and hope you rejoin, but I know what usually happens next after one person coughs. I never see that in conversation, but I know what happens the week after... time and time again.

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@Crissy@tech.lgbt replied  ·  activity timestamp 3 weeks ago

@dianea It is heavy to carry what you have witnessed, and I want to acknowledge the conversation about emotional healing your words invite us into.

Sounds like you have shifted into a "professional introvert" role to stay safe.

In my work, I see this as your body managing the wear and tear of chronic stress. When you witness permanent loss, your nervous system stays on high alert. This is your biology trying to protect you in a game with no extra lives.

Choosing to mask and isolate is a deep act of self-respect. In my Resonant Life OS, this is the practical side of Emotional Hygiene. You are protecting your frequency. It is okay to mourn the old days while doing what you must to stay safe.

Rejoining doesn't have to look like the old ways. For example, some build safe circles through voice-note friendships or outdoor walks where boundaries are respected. It is about socialising without the gamble.

Grateful for your voice and the care you show for the collective.

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@Crissy@tech.lgbt replied  ·  activity timestamp 3 weeks ago

2of2: If you need to tell your friends you are staying in, keep it simple:

1. "Thanks for thinking of me, but I’m in a period of quiet rest and not making social plans right now"

2. "I value our friendship, but my battery is empty and I need this time at home to recharge"

3. "I’m focusing on my own recovery this week to start the year right, so I have to miss this one"

This is how you keep your energy clear and stop carrying old stress into a new year.

By protecting your internal rhythm, you ensure your frequency remains your own.

Recommended Reading via Psychology Today: Creativity and Sensory Gating by Dr. Carolyn Cassin

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/finding-butterfly/201501/creativity-and-sensory-gating

#WellnessWithCrissy #ResonantLifeOS #EmotionalHygiene

Psychology Today

Creativity and Sensory Gating

It is possible that some risk factors that are associated with elevated psychopathology, such as leaky sensory gating, might also, in combination with other protective factors, be a "risk" factor for increased creative achievement.
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