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There's a dilemma when it comes to male/female relationships.
Because of our cultural abandonment of children and our collective focus on power and competing (both cornerstones of our society, and yet oddly taboo as a conversational topic), most children grow up without the levels of love and support they need to thrive.
Including, of course, boys.
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@KatyElphinstone This thread is phenomenal! I’m reading this while I rest in bed and feeling guilty about asking my partner to do something related to childcare, which is usually my responsibility. Yeah I know I shouldn’t feel guilty about taking a break or wanting support when my body can’t literally take the load. But it’s very hard when you’re fully dependent on your partner financially and feel worthless about this to begin with.
Omg I've been there (or at least, somewhere similar). I've felt that too, so much. I feel for you.
Here's a link to an article I wrote...in case it helps... also maybe worth following the links to the threads on the economics of it, as it's both shocking and validating (you'll be able to tell from the article that I was in a similar position in terms of dependency).
https://www.neurofabulous.org.uk/should-parents-be-paid.html
In a similar way to how I must acknowledge, as a white person, that I’m richer than most Black and brown people are.
These dynamics help those who hold the most power to become richer, and they foster division among us.
In this thread, I’ll cover a bit of ground on the gender side of things...
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#Patriarchy #Money #BlackLivesMatter #Feminism #SocialJustice
There's a dilemma when it comes to male/female relationships.
Because of our cultural abandonment of children and our collective focus on power and competing (both cornerstones of our society, and yet oddly taboo as a conversational topic), most children grow up without the levels of love and support they need to thrive.
Including, of course, boys.
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Mothers, who are expected to provide unconditional love and support, in our society either lack:
1. Freedom to do so, e.g. in your average traditional nuclear family, or
2. Time to do so, if they’re also working for money, or
3. Money to do so - money is important when it comes to love and support, as without it you’re homeless, foodless, comfortless.
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This is due to the (intentionally) unpaid and invisible nature of parenting, despite it being hard and time-consuming labor.
(More on this in my article, 'Should parents be paid:'
https://www.neurofabulous.org.uk/should-parents-be-paid.html)
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Mothers are, in effect, forced into a corner.
They may end up with no.1 above, and then have no choice but to use coercive & unhealthy mechanisms on their children to sustain the situation (they’re heavily expected, even forced, to use power over their children to make them do things; such as go to school, tidy their rooms, study, be a well-greased cog in the ‘machine’… etc.).
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