@fkftsh as someone who started transitioning 9 years ago and due to being nonbinary still not passing as my desired perceived gender (male) (i am nonbinary but for cis people its enough to know that i am male actually, for nonbinary people i am genderless /transmasc / genderqueer and other labels that i have collected over years) i do completely agree with that. I *wish* people would actually ask me before asuming me to be (incorrectly) female. I transitioned into masculinity and yet it is never given to me for free. I always have to step in and correct people and afterwards i get gendered correctly. You can't see gender. And some people might be lucky enough to maybe get enough passing bc of time / luck / genetics. But for the rest of us who are trans and who either can't transition, won't transition, have transitioned years ago or can't achieve correct gendering anyway bc of being outside of binary or due to technology not being able to achieve inner gender to outside, begging people to correctly assume ones gender is just shutting out all of us who can't access that correct gendering in the first place. I don't know what to tell people who can't fathom that yes, I have transitioned years ago and I did everything to make myself happy and they still want to give me tips on how to "pass" better so that i may finally be gendered correctly.. why is it always my fault?? Why do I have to put in anymore effort ?? I already did everything in my might. People just can't see me for who I am because they just assume based off of looks. I am tired.