@farah I don't remember where I heard it, but there's some advice I like that says each parent should be doing 60% of the work

@farah what part of the parenting does your partner do? Sounds like you’re doing…everything

@farah I'm not a parent so take my opinion with a grain of salt, but I think it's good to teach kids independence as soon as their able. My parents were big on teaching me life skills so I could navigate things if they were not there to help or give advice. My parents were also surprisingly good at splitting tasks between themselves--especially considering their generation. Anyways, don't feel bad if you're not able to do something--this is basically supposed to be the opportunity for someone else to pick up the slack and if they're not willing to do that, then that's their loss.

@farah Parenting two children is really hard. Especially when one is an adult.

That's probably why so many people are bad at it.

I'm sorry 🫂

@farah ugh, yeah. It seems like this always happens regardless of anyone's intention to avoid it, which is one of the many reasons I didn't want kids.

Even WITHOUT kids, the bulk of household stuff falls to me unless I specifically delegate. At least Mr. Blue does most of the cooking.

@farah
You are not losing your mind. Division of labour has always been skewed against women and it fucking sucks.

No one is going to die from eating cereal for dinner. X