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People just want to love and be loved; some are spending mucho dinero to cherry pick traits and attributes though. Wonder how that turns out for them. Partners are not customizable. Why does it matter if someone is a specific height or weight or Master`s degree.
I saw this film Materialists when it first came out and it was an interesting film if you are into drama and romance.
https://www.the-independent.com/life-style/dating-wealthy-matchmaking-business-love-b2977232.html#
Treating a person like they are customizable is a mechanical error. Traits like wealth or physical attributes are Attributes, but they aren't Operating Systems.
Checklist Trap: Spending money to cherry-pick traits creates a transactional energy. If you buy a partner based on their specs, you’ll always be looking for an upgrade when a newer model arrives.
Disconnect: A Master’s degree or a specific height doesn't tell you how a person handles stress, how they show up in a Healing Container or if they respect your boundaries.
Finding the Same Frequency
True connection isn't about matching looks; it's about matching Internal Environments.
Values Over Visuals: When you find a partner with similar values, your systems Resonate. You don't have to force a connection because you are already running on the same Harmonic Frequency
Math of Love: A wishlist is 1+1=2. Alignment is 1+1=11. When 2 regulated, aligned bodies come together, they create a field of potential that a customized partner can never reach.
Self-Respect as the Filter
Why does it matter if someone fits a specific mold? It usually doesn't. Often, the "Wishlist" is just a distraction from the real work of finding Pure Presence.
Body Autonomy: A partner who values your autonomy is worth more than any specific physical trait.
The Master Switch: If you lead with Self-Respect, you stop looking for someone to "complete" your list and start looking for someone who "amplifies" your peace.
Partners aren't products. They are living, breathing systems. The goal isn't to find someone who looks like your "type"—it’s to find someone who feels like Home.
The right person or partner, functions like a team with you. Supports and applauds your successes, isn`t jealous or envious or emotionally or physically manipulative, and they would never hide you from the important people in their life (something called Stashing or Pocketing which is a toxic dating thing).
The right people will respect and treat you right. Hopefully, you recognize this.
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