@neil new here, what’s a “fedi”? I keep seeing this word but I can’t understand what it is

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Wo ist das Problem, dann muss man halt seinen Beitrag mit der Einstellung "Only Follower" veröffentlichen!
Ist halt schade um die Möglichkeit seine Gedanken in größerer Runde auszutauschen und auf neue interessante Menschen zu treffen!
Vielleicht hilft dann auch der Umzug auf eine andere, kleinere (?) Instanz.
Oft lohnt sich auch die Kommunikation auf die Metaebene zu heben, konnte so schon manches Missverständnis klären!

@neil Can you in RL control who`s replying to words you said?

@neil I've had women say they were leaving things as niche as language exchange apps because of appalling comments. My wife joined a pen-pal, slow delivery, letter-like service and had to leave because of what she got.

I honestly don't know what the fuck is wrong with a lot of men.

@neil In account settings there's a followers-only option for reply privacy. That's probably what you want.

@neil
🙏 I've thought about this a lot, and I would certainly like to be able to restrict replies on a (very) few posts.

A recent humourous post on mansplaining was full of that, and I ignored it. And some affirming trans posts can get some odd replies.

Folk here in the Fediverse would hopefully use it judiciously I feel - in my case just a small percentage of posts, as generally the conversation generated is enlightening.

@neil

There is a word filter system, which is probably not the level of control you are proposing, but it is a real-time start.

I have the classic insults blocked, but, for cause, sadly.

@neil

I just wanted to draw your attention to some some ways to manage the visibility of a post. Could your outline additional controls which could be established?

@neil

possibly your client is suboptimal

here's the mobile web interface on android with the followers only option

@neil I would like it as well, not so much for restricting replies to my toots but being able to see 'ah this person only wants replies from mutuals' and therefore not sending a reply which at best won't be read and at worst will annoy.

(I have come across accounts who want to restrict replies and there is no way to advertise this)

@neil
I believe there is a plan to add something like followers only, but one problem is that servers that are not upgraded to a version that supports that flag wouldn't honour it.

Not that it's a reason not to do it, but it'll take a while before it's effective.

@neil I’d really like that feature too. Reply guys be damned, some things are just… better without two way comms.

@neil that would be perfect. An “only allow replies from people you follow” option would help so much.