A recurring refrain #onhere, is that if we're to respond to what is happening in our contemporary moment, we have to build connections, and strengthen those we have.

Which is indubitable.

Yet, for those of us who have spent a lifetime trying and failing to build lasting connections in our and across many prior communities, the indubitable can appear insurmountable.

For those of us who have lived our lives as aliens to our own culture, etic participant observers of an all too often impenetrable emic consensus reality, a question like "Who would you reach out to?" can feel like a threat.

For those of us in this disheartening place, a lifetime of failing to connect under far less dire circumstances being our only resume, a more promising question may instead be "Who would depend on you?"

Identify those persons, or even that lone person, in your life. Or if the count on that score is none, focus on finding an adequate answer. Not finding who you'd reach out to to take action. Finding who would you be prepared to have depend on you when action is being taken.

Ideally, such a person is someone who builds connections, even if only less modest than our own, and in our support of their efforts, if only by taking other tasks not those of building and strengthening connections off their hands, now and before the shit hits the fan, their own energies would be freed up to build and strengthen those connections all the more.

Sometimes, revolution really does come down to who does the dishes.

Even if they are not, however, even if they are as alienated as we are ourselves, reaching out in advance to work out how, when *waves hands* comes to your neighborhood, you each will reach out to and support the other, and building that praxis as habit of daily actions, now, is better than waiting for such a day to come without having prepared for it.