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Crissy🐆💚
@Crissy@tech.lgbt  ·  activity timestamp 5 days ago

Emily Lyons posted this on LinkedIn…definitely food for thought

“The modern dating crisis has nothing to do with a lack of options. It has everything to do with impossible standards.

As a CEO of companies in the dating space, the number one reason people stay single: Unrealistic expectations.

Not heartbreak.
Not lack of options.
Not timing.
Expectations.

The list gets longer. The standards get narrower. The boxes get more specific. And suddenly the person who could have been perfect for you gets dismissed for something trivial.

You don’t need someone who checks every box. You need someone who shows up for the right boxes.

Kindness. Emotional safety. Chemistry that grows instead of explodes. Shared vision for life. Respect. A willingness to repair.

The right partner is not the perfect person. The right partner is the person who makes you feel like you can be fully yourself.

Drop the list. Keep your standards.”

#dating #romanticrelationships #matchmaker

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Crissy🐆💚
@Crissy@tech.lgbt replied  ·  activity timestamp 4 days ago

Read this again and i think most ppl think there’s “the one”but that’s so limiting, what happens when that “one” dies, cheats on u, or just disappears? Do u then find a new one?

Having been married before for 5 years (yeah i was younger), I would still choose that person but now that we’re divorced, i am glad to not be with that One LOL.

Happy to be here where i am but i do feel for people who have been dating awhile outside of the apps and i think that’s still better than dating apps coz people gotta meet IRL instead of have long text exchanges and just be ghosted.

Have never used dating apps, it’s antithesis to my values and been lucky enough to be in sports and hobby clubs to meet romantic interests organically by friendship first before dating.

I also have changed my views, before i got married (it was fast too, we moved in after 2 mos. together prepandemic, we were both convinced it was the right thing to do. 5 years later we were different ppl and amicable divorce was the only solution…

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