I like this article about repairing rupture in relationships and the unique challenges that #neurodivergent / #actuallyautistic folks can face in this endeavor.
Reflecting on some of the ruptures in my life, repair has sometimes been a slow and nonlinear process rather than tidy and quick. It's actually a collaboration.
Rupture is normal; it's a result of two people trying to have a connection who sometimes "bump into each other's stuff". Rupture hurts because we crave connection.
But repair can also be normal.
The article gives some suggestions about how to support repair. I find them helpful.