cristinaMUSE Bouche
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The five neurodivergent love languages 😊💖
Erwin Ernst eest9 Steinhammer
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Für alle, die wissen wollen, wie sich #Autismus anfühlt :
#SozialeInteraktion ist Schwerstarbeit. Nicht, weil ich es nicht WILL (egal, wie oft mir das noch unterstellt wird), sondern weil ich Signale wie Körpersprache, Stimmhöhe oder Betonung nicht intuitiv sondern kognitiv verarbeite.
Stellt euch einfach vor, ihr müsstet jedes Mal eine zufällige vierstellige Zahl im Kopf durch eine zufällige zweistellige Zahl teilen, wenn ihr jemanden trefft. Für jede Person eine Aufgabe - darum sind Gruppen so anstrengend. Und, hey, wenn ihr wisst, dass ihr gleich jemanden trefft, fängt euer Gehirn vorher an, zu überlegen, welche Rechenaufgabe kommen KÖNNTE. Ist das nachvollziehbar?
Klar, irgendwann wird man besser im Kopfrechnen, aber Arbeit bleibt es.
#actuallyAutistic
Für alle, die wissen wollen, wie sich #Autismus anfühlt :
#SozialeInteraktion ist Schwerstarbeit. Nicht, weil ich es nicht WILL (egal, wie oft mir das noch unterstellt wird), sondern weil ich Signale wie Körpersprache, Stimmhöhe oder Betonung nicht intuitiv sondern kognitiv verarbeite.
Stellt euch einfach vor, ihr müsstet jedes Mal eine zufällige vierstellige Zahl im Kopf durch eine zufällige zweistellige Zahl teilen, wenn ihr jemanden trefft. Für jede Person eine Aufgabe - darum sind Gruppen so anstrengend. Und, hey, wenn ihr wisst, dass ihr gleich jemanden trefft, fängt euer Gehirn vorher an, zu überlegen, welche Rechenaufgabe kommen KÖNNTE. Ist das nachvollziehbar?
Klar, irgendwann wird man besser im Kopfrechnen, aber Arbeit bleibt es.
#actuallyAutistic
Jess Mahler
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One thing that I don't think came up in any of the hashtag games but I always wanted to talk about is Kyawtchais and eir family.
Kyatchais and eir family are almost all #autistic. It's a large family (around 30 people across 4 generations) and they are known as the Silent Spinners for how many of them don't/prefer not to/can't talk verbally. Several generations ago the family invented their own sign language, which has started to spread out into the wider society.
I put a fair bit of thought into what kind of family culture might develop in such a family over the generations. Kyatchais is mostly (not entirely) modeled off of my own experiences of autism, but I tried to show other ways autism can impact people in the glimpses we get of Kyawtchais' family.
Jess Mahler
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Well, it happened. I've been experiencing autistic burnout, it made my job performance really bad, and now I'm unemployed. They didn't fire me. I had to quit because I was having panic attacks at night, reliving the memories of my mistakes with two hours of sleep before next shifts.
If anyone in Canada has part-time non-scammy remote job recommendations, please let me know. I can't do work in-person right now.
Well, it happened. I've been experiencing autistic burnout, it made my job performance really bad, and now I'm unemployed. They didn't fire me. I had to quit because I was having panic attacks at night, reliving the memories of my mistakes with two hours of sleep before next shifts.
If anyone in Canada has part-time non-scammy remote job recommendations, please let me know. I can't do work in-person right now.
Lefeng looked down. “I never had much current. I flowed with my family because it was the life I was born into, and I was good at it. I miss the mountains. There is beauty to them. But I think sometimes I never really cared about anything until I met Chestef. And then… It was less than I cared about em and more that caring for em gave me a reason to not run back to the mountains and let them take me.”
That was not the guarding-one, long-stride, watchful-one Kolchais knew. Not the strong-one who killed a great cat to defend eir family and carried it across the mountains in memory.
“And now?” Kolchais asked.
“I am lost.” The words were so soft they were nearly lost too, even on such a quiet night. “No current of my own and none to follow. I think if I were alone, I would stop where I am. But I can’t do that because you and the others depend on me.”
Hesitantly, Kolchais reached out and put a hand on Lefeng’s shoulder. “I think you mistake yourself. You can create great current when you choose, but what moves you is the people you care for. As long as they are well, you are content and let yourself be carried in the current of others. But when they are in need, you are the riptide, sweeping all from your path.”
Lefeng was silent for a time. “How do you see in me what I don’t see in myself?”
Kolchais laughed. “Well, my spouse-to-be, you are the one who says I am wise about people. Maybe you are right.”
One thing that I don't think came up in any of the hashtag games but I always wanted to talk about is Kyawtchais and eir family.
Kyatchais and eir family are almost all #autistic. It's a large family (around 30 people across 4 generations) and they are known as the Silent Spinners for how many of them don't/prefer not to/can't talk verbally. Several generations ago the family invented their own sign language, which has started to spread out into the wider society.
I put a fair bit of thought into what kind of family culture might develop in such a family over the generations. Kyatchais is mostly (not entirely) modeled off of my own experiences of autism, but I tried to show other ways autism can impact people in the glimpses we get of Kyawtchais' family.
Jess Mahler
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Good afternoon all!
I'm trying to raise $100 before Dec 2 to pay my phone bill. There's no rush, obviously, but keep me in if you have literal spare change in your paypal. That would help a lot!🫰🏾
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Ben
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@TheBreadmonkey I hope you get to have fun! Ive followed international rugby on and off, I dont really care about sport or rugby generally, but honestly sometimes its nice to be in a big bunch of people where theres zero expectation of chat, and every now and again give a big roar with everyone. Kind of like choir, but less musical. Genuinely hope you have a nice day of 'protect the precious egg', but I echo other people's warnings about the price of a Twickenham pint #ActuallyAutistic
One for all of you anxiety-heads out there. In the summer, I'd just finished my first really good group trail run and was chatting with some of the guys and feeling like I belonged with people for the first time in a while. One of them casually mentioned they were all going to watch England play rugby and did I want to go. I said of course, yes, not really thinking about it, or thinking it was a throwaway invite and they probably wouldn't be able to get tickets. Certainly not enough for everyone, so I could show my willingness to participate but without actually having to. Win/win.
The next day he messaged to say he'd got my ticket and I needed to give him £150 within the next 2 days.
Panic
So I borrowed the money to pay, because I reasoned that I can't say I want a ticket then immediately after he's bought one tell him I can't afford it. I then sidelined it as a problem for another day, subconsciously hoping for global obliteration. Then my whole family books a weekend away. I can't go because of this bloody ticket. But that's fine. Means they can all go in one car and we all get a breather from each other (which frankly I need). Bit sad, but it's OK.
But I still have the issue of this ticket. I cannot afford it. I don't know anything about the current team or who's doing well or who's doing badly. I have no stories. I don't know what to wear. I need a haircut. What if I'm weird and they don't like me. Woooosaaaaah.
Normal chaotic anxiety thoughts that normally subside.
Then it occurs to me today (as I realise the inevitability of it and start to spiral a little) that one option available to me that I hadn't considered is that I could...... just go and have a good time? Is that something I'm allowed to do? Seems like that's for other people. How does one do that? Just travel somewhere with a bunch of well-meaning strangers, have a couple of beers and shout at some men on a field, along with a hundred thousand other people (I don't understand stadium capacities).
So I think I'm going to try and stop being a hurricane of neurotic overthinking and just go into the day with an open mind. It will be OK and I might - if I'm very lucky - even have a good day and a formative experience.
I share this stuff to get it out so it doesn't fester - I can't be the only person who feels like this?
@TheBreadmonkey I hope you get to have fun! Ive followed international rugby on and off, I dont really care about sport or rugby generally, but honestly sometimes its nice to be in a big bunch of people where theres zero expectation of chat, and every now and again give a big roar with everyone. Kind of like choir, but less musical. Genuinely hope you have a nice day of 'protect the precious egg', but I echo other people's warnings about the price of a Twickenham pint #ActuallyAutistic
Good afternoon all!
I'm trying to raise $100 before Dec 2 to pay my phone bill. There's no rush, obviously, but keep me in if you have literal spare change in your paypal. That would help a lot!🫰🏾
https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/ourinsatiabesouls
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Ymmv, but faceblindness and difficulty remembering names are definitely known phenomena within the Tribe.
Often offset/compensated by remembering other details about people or situations, in my experience.
Sabrina Web :privacypride: 📎
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I wish I didn’t need this help, but I’ve got so many doctors appointments in the next month not having a phone isn’t an option. Any help towards my phone bill would be so so SO appreciated
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#fedibrain This is a question about an annoying client for a questionable server, but bear with me. One of my kids was messing about with Schildichat on Ubuntu 22.04 and somehow zoomed the window to unreadably tiny. They think they were using ctrl-minus. They cannot undo it. Ctrl-plus has no effect. Nor does ctrl-r, shift-ctrl-plus, or anything else I could think of. It persists across programme termination, reboots, etc.
Question 1: is there an obvious way to fix this with keystrokes?
If not, then...
Question 2: Schildichat is an ElectronJS glorblet, or whatever it's properly called when you forcefeed users all that extra guff. I hunted around in .config/SchildiChat to see if I could find where it stored persistent values for screen magnification but couldn't find anything obvious, or anything that I could edit with useful results. If there is one among you with the cursed knowledge of that webapp framework...where might I look?
And yes, we are trying to migrate away from matrix. As an #actuallyAutistic family various among us often go mute and need to use a chat server to communicate. We moved from Mattermost to Matrix several years ago, and I will probably just go back to XMPP rather than deal with self-hosting "new" matrix. But I haven't got time to do that migration right now.
Jess Mahler
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subscription renewal has left me $8 short of my essential grocery bill, I'd really appreciate any help with that little bit just so I can get everything I need 🙏🏾❤️
I appreciate all the support so very much.
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Jess Mahler
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EMERGENCY, BLACK FAMILY NEEDS YOUR HELP🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨
$99/$1,500
My Dad recently lost his job and we're hit with bills and a car note. We do not have enough to pay for all of it, so we only need around $1,500 ASAP!!! Please!
#mutualaid #emergency #blackmastodon #mutual_aid #fundraiser @mutualaid #crowdfund #kofi #actuallyautistic #artistsonmastodon #crowdfunding #blackcrowdfund #kofigoal #blackartist #BlackFedi #blackfediverse
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I wish I didn’t need this help, but I’ve got so many doctors appointments in the next month not having a phone isn’t an option. Any help towards my phone bill would be so so SO appreciated
https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/ourinsatiabesouls
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subscription renewal has left me $8 short of my essential grocery bill, I'd really appreciate any help with that little bit just so I can get everything I need 🙏🏾❤️
I appreciate all the support so very much.
https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/ourinsatiabesouls
#BlackMutualAid #MutualAidRequest
#BlackMastodon #queermutualaid
#HelpFolksLive2025 #Queercrowdfund
#disability #disabilityaid #actuallyautistic #DisabilityCrowdFund #MutualAid
@mutual_aid@hexbear.net @mutual_aid@starflower.space @MutualAidVisibility @anarchomutual @blackfedi @mutualaid
@elana There'sa great community of ND folk online here and you can reach them by reposting with #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD and similar hashtags. Click on both those first to see what tags people are using. It's fine to not be ND and use those tags.
@happyborg @elana It definitely is not fine to not be #ActuallyAutistic and use the tag, with the exception of people questioning if they themselves might be autistic.
That tag is only for autistic people, both self identified and officially diagnosed, and for people who feel like they might be, wherever they be on their journey of self discovery.
However, it strictly isn’t for neurotypical people to ask questions to ND folk about other ND folk.
@elana There'sa great community of ND folk online here and you can reach them by reposting with #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD and similar hashtags. Click on both those first to see what tags people are using. It's fine to not be ND and use those tags.