@ErikUden That's what you get when you try to use a word but can't and everyone comes up with descriptions and circumscriptions to say it but not say it.
Say it or don't! And maybe if you want to say it, think a second about if it's really appropriate.
Using a circumscription like "the R-word" or "the N-word" literally makes people say the word in their heads out loud which is even worse because you're making them feel bad while you get off scot free because you didn't say it.