@evacide I have no real qualifications and I'm not one of the smartest in the room. I freely accept I'm just an average human. But I can guarantee to you I can spot horrible bullying people who like to belittle those who they consider are beneath them. When I discover who these individuals are, that's when I leave the room as life is short and we don't have to tolerate pricks.
@evacide some people mistake this with elitism or something adjacent to it (thus the comments about boring assholes and such...)

But it's actually about finding best spot for learning and bettering yourself. It's great to always be near someone who can teach you something new. It's also great have someone to measure yourself with - to motivate yourself.

To be the smartest person in the room is definition of being stagnant in your growth. And stagnation is a death of mind.

@evacide

I'm closing in on being on the planet for 3/4 of a century. I've thought about a lot of things when entering said rooms, but if I had to count the number of times that included comparing my IQ to others, it would be in the single digits.

I've spent a lifetime specifically not wanting to do that very thing. I know 'my number', and I also know the incredible amount of knowledge I've gained from those who aren't near my supposed level of smart... and thankful that I've known them all.

@evacide personally, I think this is great advice. Wish somebody had told me that 50 years ago. However, if everyone follows it, doesn’t that mean that every room will either be full of people who aren’t sure that they’re the smartest person in it (which might be a really good thing), or every room will only have one person in it?
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Along the lines of Mensa, I had an ex girlfriend who was, obviously, very intelligent. Super smart.

Whenever she met someone, within five minutes she would ask them if they had a master’s degree, because, you know, she did (if they did, she’d ask if it was in CS because that’s much harder to get than one in the humanities…)

At some point I realized that just because someone ticks all the boxes on the “what am I looking for in a partner” doesn’t mean you should be with them…