The actual specific thing with Bonfire set me off on this line of thinking was:
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E.g. you can share a post with several circles but only allow replies from a specific circle, or make a post public but invisible to specific people.
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"Make this invisible to X, Y, Z" strikes me as something that can requires very nuanced and situation specific careful stepping around disclosure/visibility and trust. (Ranging from "none", e.g. planning a birthday party, to much higher stakes.)
@gaditb@icosahedron.website great point! This is what's currently shown when you delete a post in Bonfire, I guess we could make it clearer that this: