- Am I just being contrarian?
* Do I already have a relationship with this person, or am I being inappropriately familiar?
* Am I "ironically" doing exactly what this person just said not to do?
* Am I derailing another legitimate discussion in order to get on my own favourite hobby-horse or to one-up this person in my knowledge of social issues?
* Am I saying "Are you surprised?" when they're disappointed?
* Am I providing unsolicited advice?
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@researchfairy I think this is a pretty good list of questions to ask oneself. Regarding the last one, however, I don't think it's bad to offer suggestions to someone who is describing a problem that they have, even if they did not explicitly ask for advice. In this case I would distinguish between telling someone that they "should" do something, and that they "can" or "may" do something. Offering different perspectives is totally fine if it's not pushy.
