RE: https://dair-community.social/@emilymbender/117292275974309297
To my mind, this post feels exactly right. It's about building and conserving a respectful and useful online conversational space. But the comments are just pointless reply guy. That women state things this plainly and STILL get this crap in return, feels so exhausting. And I'm not even involved, I'm just watching it. By the third reply I wanted to lay my head down on a table and nap.
On the plus side, the comments read as a veritable who's who of whom to block. I think I got nearly everyone.
Here's the thing about social media folks:
Post on your own feed = people who follow you and presumably want to know your thoughts will see it.
Reply to someone else's post = you are demanding attention from someone else, so you'd be well advised to check whether you are telling them something they likely already know.
Wanna share a thought based on what someone else said? Bare minimum, respect their expertise and acknowledge their contribution.
@hollie I do find it weird the number of people for whom the right to be an arsehole seems to be the hill they want to die on. Like yes, you have the absolute right to say anything you want to anyone in any context and no one can stop you, but why do you want to?