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I'm having a less than fun time with body image at the moment. This comes and goes but, right now, it sucks.
For as long as I can remember, I've wanted to be thinner. Even when I was too thin, it wasn't quite thin enough.
And, at the moment, I am far from that.
I know that I "just" need to do more exercise and eat better, but that "just" is carrying a lot of weight in this sentence. Ironically.
No advice, thanks. I'm just venting.
@neil Meh don't worry about the looks - that's fine; keeping the weight in check makes sense though, as long as it follows with where the health-folks say it should be.
@neil I fully feel your just...
@neil
I can understand that feeling.
Men indeed rarely talk about this kind of thing.
Everyone can struggle with their body image.
@neil no advice given to you directly. But you got this buddy. You’ll find the solution to the concerns you have about yourself. Only advice you are getting is be kind to yourself. Advice I should also follow but often don’t.
@neil *hug* (or not, if you're not a hugger). I'm going thru a very rare body confidence period. I know it'll end, I know what I'm like to myself, so I'll enjoy it for however long or little it lasts.
But yeah, we don't talk about it. This is only the 3rd time in my 50 plus years I've felt anything but negatively about it. The saddest thing is it never occurred to me that I could talk to anyone about it in all those years.
To do better we need to be taught better. I do hope that's happening.
@neil I hear you, and you have my sympathies.
@neil I hear you. I empathise too. I *just* need to do the same.
Sending appropriate physical contact if you need it x
Hello! I haven't seen you here in ages! I hope you are okay?
Yes, this is rather a tough one - sorry to hear that you are in the same boat :(
@neil one of the reasons I haven’t been doing much photography, so not updating my blog much means not on here much. It’s a tough spot.
@neil I'm having a similar thing with starting to lose my hair. I've always loved having long (or at least longish) hair, but I don't think that's going to be sustainable much longer. I veer between being quite down about it and then thinking "screw it, I'll just shave the whole lot off and be done with it".
I guess the big difference here is that there's not much I can do about it, as there's no way I'm spending however much implants cost. But boy I feel the pressure of it.
Oof 😞 My sympathies.
For better or worse, since I started balding rather early in life, I've not had to think too much about that one...
@neil I'm fairly sure in a few years I'll be absolutely fine with it - the weird thing is that I don't think I realised quite how important my hair was to my identity. Especially when I've always thought that physical appearance wasn't that important to me.
Identity is a funny old thing.
@neil feel for you. Also something that's been plaguing me all my life. I keep telling myself that yeah, I should give myself a break ffs. But then I see this or that in the mirror again.
To add insult ... I'm sagging! Damn. 🤍
> But then I see this or that in the mirror again.
Yes, this! It's tough, isn't it!
And yes, aging itself doesn't make things any easier :(
@neil oh no *hugs* :(
Body image issues are hard, I feel for you 💜
@neil Yeh, I just need to do the same...
@neil yeah, it's very easy to say you just need to run more, but as someone that runs quite a lot, I've still not lost weight (though that's not been my primary goal), as you eat to match your training load and your metabolism adjusts.
Exercise is definitely part of the solution, but it's so much harder to reach than nearly everyone makes out.
Anyway, good luck
@neil feels off to hit “like” in this, but … yeah. You were heard.
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