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@alice@lgbtqia.space  ·  activity timestamp 2 weeks ago

This last week, on a trip, while talking with several extended family members, I noticed that I was hearing the same tone in a lot of the conversations.

It was very 🤷🤦🙎🙅😡😤😩...

My partner and I also took psychic chip-damage from unintentional/passive transphobia and sexism throughout the trip.

In response, I decided that it's time to double down...on being kind.

Sure, I'll still loudly call out bullshit when I see it, but I decided that I need to redouble—neigh 🐴—retriple my efforts to be kind and helpful and wholesome(-ish) to everyone.

Because being kind to someone when they need it most is worth more to the community than me yelling at conservatives (but still, fuck those guys).

*this toot may have also been inspired by watching K-Pop Demon Hunters for the third time.

#KindnessIsPunkAF

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@alice@lgbtqia.space replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 weeks ago

As my partner just put it, her family "trades in negativity and pessimism". It's a way of creating an in group. "The news sucks and other people are stupid."

And I saw myself getting pulled into the conversations—taking on that tone.

And then I thought of the day—not that long ago—standing on the Aurora bridge. As I prepared to jump, I got a chirp from my phone...and then another. I paused to see what they were; two Mastodon notifications—mentions—nothing big, just a couple nice comments.

They're the reason I didn't jump that day. And neither of those people know what impact they had. They were just tooting in the right place, at the precise right moment.

If those had been links to some bullshit conservatives were doing, or some troll shouting hate-speech, or some spambot trying to market to me, then things might have gone very differently that day.

I want to be the reason someone else doesn't jump.

I want to be the kind words that makes someone feel loved and cared about.

Cool, I made myself cry...again 🤦🏼‍♀️

But I think you get the point. Kindness matters, and you never know how much it might mean to someone.

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Woozle Hypertwin
@woozle@toot.cat replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 weeks ago

@alice I had the same change-of-decision 41 years ago, but only because some part of me quickly woke up to the situation and talked the rest of me back down (apparently my feelings can be reasoned with).

It still remains a struggle to feel like I belong here, though I've not come anywhere near that low-point since then (and am not in any danger now). Nothing and nobody can fill the gap Jenny left (says 41 years of experience), so what does that leave me hoping for? I guess it's not so much that there is clearly hope as it is that there clearly isn't if you go the other way.

...and on a good day, curiosity can sustain me just enough. On a bad day, I have to remember that there are good days.

I'm trying to figure out how to actively create new connections that feel meaningful, but apparently I am amazingly bad at it. blobcatupsidedown

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Samuel Hautamäki
@samuel@polymaths.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 2 weeks ago

@alice Kindness is the new punk rock!

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