The Law of the Excluded Schmooze
"The belief that freedom and discipline must be in opposition only makes sense in a civilization that has long lived under what we might call the law of the excluded schmooze.
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Perhaps discipline, properly understood, is nothing more than care extended through time—and schmooze, the medium through which that care becomes collective."
https://seizethemeans.communitarium.org/baslow/the-law-of-the-excluded-schmooze