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Katy Elphinstone
@KatyElphinstone@mas.to  ·  activity timestamp 3 weeks ago

I relate to this.

Anyone else out there 'hardworking and quiet'?

And.. yes:

"Why don't we just start using words to communicate so I can stop tracking everyone's eyebrow twitches, that would be great."

#Autism #Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic

@she-waves-at-cats

I think it needs to become common knowledge that 'inability to read social cues' can show up as overcompensating.

You don't know how much misbehaviour is allowed so you become the perfect child who never tests rules.

You don't know how much is expected of you at work, so you'll kill yourself in a minimum wage job and not notice that nobody else is working like this. 

"hardworking and quiet" should be as much of an autism red flag as "ignores rules and doesn't stop talking".

Or why don't we just start using words to communicate so I can stop tracking everyone's eyebrow twitches, that would be great.
@she-waves-at-cats I think it needs to become common knowledge that 'inability to read social cues' can show up as overcompensating. You don't know how much misbehaviour is allowed so you become the perfect child who never tests rules. You don't know how much is expected of you at work, so you'll kill yourself in a minimum wage job and not notice that nobody else is working like this. "hardworking and quiet" should be as much of an autism red flag as "ignores rules and doesn't stop talking". Or why don't we just start using words to communicate so I can stop tracking everyone's eyebrow twitches, that would be great.
@she-waves-at-cats I think it needs to become common knowledge that 'inability to read social cues' can show up as overcompensating. You don't know how much misbehaviour is allowed so you become the perfect child who never tests rules. You don't know how much is expected of you at work, so you'll kill yourself in a minimum wage job and not notice that nobody else is working like this. "hardworking and quiet" should be as much of an autism red flag as "ignores rules and doesn't stop talking". Or why don't we just start using words to communicate so I can stop tracking everyone's eyebrow twitches, that would be great.
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darrellpf
@darrellpf@mas.to replied  ·  activity timestamp 3 weeks ago

@KatyElphinstone @autistics

From a very early age I never wanted to be seen. That means being good at what i do and never making a mistake. I'm always early, always prepared. With backup.

Worst thing for me is making a publicly visible error. I don't even like playing card games where my mistakes are visible to others.

Much of autism in adults is unrecognized because we have managed to hide successfully. Sometimes we excel for that reason, but often we are quietly licking our wounds.

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