
my mother is happier than she's ever been.
my ma, too. there is a future out there
for every gay person who's always known
they're gay., like my ma, and for everyone
who figures it out later, like my mother
there's time.
they're growing old together. i cannot
express to you how much they are leading
happy lives, loving each other, with a huge
family surrounding them. i cannot express to
you how much they have this beautiful future
that they are living and willive
i want you to know, if you don't have any
older gays in your life: they're out there. and
they're living these full, happy lives.
sometimes i look to my moms and i think
i want a life like yours. and looking at them
makes me believe i will get it

they dance on the street to buskers (very
embarrassing when you're twelve; very cute
when you look back on it as an adult). i shit
you not -- they pass me their purses and
dance on the sidewalk, laughing. i thought
was something that only happened in
movies.
my ma makes my mother eggs every
morning because my mother can't cook
for shit. my mother presses my ma's work
blazers for her because my ma still can't
figure out how to work the new iron.
when it was warm, high-school me would
wake up on the weekends and wander
downstairs to find them sitting in the
backyard in the sun, drinking coffee together
and splitting the newspaper in a surgical,
exact process since they'd worked out who
wanted which sections years ago.

thinking about middle aged gay love is like
we have a future and we have time
lycaonswolves replied:
my mother divorced my father when i was 7.
it wasn't because she was gay, though she
did discover this later (another reminder that
it's okay to find out who you are at 40, at 50,
etc, and also for who you are to change) but
because she had thought he was the great
love of her life and he turned out to be a
shitty person
my mother married my ma when i was 11. i
think they do have a great love. i think they
love each other the way you can when you're
middle aged -- having seen the world, being
able to see each other's flaws, knowing
themselves. they see each other in full, and
they love each other and the world for it.