First it's the trans folks, then it's all the other queers. And if anyone around here didn't see it coming, hie you to a library and learn something about history before they try to burn all of those down.
This year we made a series of videos on Safeguarding Rainbow Seniors against online dating scams.
https://odlan.ca/safeguarding-rainbow-seniors-from-online-dating-scams/
If you want to fund our work and more research like this, help us spread the word! Government grants are much harder to come by this year, so every dollar helps!
We're looking for advisors and board members from the 2SLGBTQIA+ communities based in Canada. Please reach out if that's you.
My nonprofit ODLAN is doing some fundraising to help us to continue delivering our work against queerphobic and transphobic online hate, to build a more inclusive web.
There are some really great deals here for Toronto-area businesses and services! (and swag!)
https://www.32auctions.com/ODLAN2026
Help us celebrate our 5th birthday by giving us money! There's also a Donate button if you just want to give us money.
📣 New Podcast! "11 February 1967: Black Cat protest" on @Spreaker #history #lgbtq
https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11-february-1967-black-cat-protest--69728375
First it's the trans folks, then it's all the other queers. And if anyone around here didn't see it coming, hie you to a library and learn something about history before they try to burn all of those down.
My nonprofit ODLAN is doing some fundraising to help us to continue delivering our work against queerphobic and transphobic online hate, to build a more inclusive web.
There are some really great deals here for Toronto-area businesses and services! (and swag!)
https://www.32auctions.com/ODLAN2026
Help us celebrate our 5th birthday by giving us money! There's also a Donate button if you just want to give us money.
This year we made a series of videos on Safeguarding Rainbow Seniors against online dating scams.
https://odlan.ca/safeguarding-rainbow-seniors-from-online-dating-scams/
If you want to fund our work and more research like this, help us spread the word! Government grants are much harder to come by this year, so every dollar helps!
We're looking for advisors and board members from the 2SLGBTQIA+ communities based in Canada. Please reach out if that's you.
My nonprofit ODLAN is doing some fundraising to help us to continue delivering our work against queerphobic and transphobic online hate, to build a more inclusive web.
There are some really great deals here for Toronto-area businesses and services! (and swag!)
https://www.32auctions.com/ODLAN2026
Help us celebrate our 5th birthday by giving us money! There's also a Donate button if you just want to give us money.
U.S. skater Amber Glenn insisted her performance in the figure skating team competition had nothing to do with the wave of hatred she has faced on social media in recent days. https://www.japantimes.co.jp/olympics/2026/02/09/amber-glenn-social-media-impact/?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=mastodon #olympics #amberglenn #milanocortinaolympics #lgbtq
Another tech co-op? Yes, but this is a little different. Privacy and security? Sure - though it's not just about your privacy and security, but everyone's (after all, none are free until all are free). There are alternative browsers led by people not friendly to the #LGBTQ+ community, there are sustainable computer companies with ties to hate speech. This isn't about that. This is about promoting alternatives to #BigTech at the intersection of #privacy #security #sustainability and #inclusivity.
Up front, please note that we sought explicit permission before even drafting this, asked for checks of drafts and redrafts, and ensured final approval before publishing this post.
Please consider this post a last-ditch plea for support and help, where all other efforts over the last month have failed spectacularly, from somebody who does not want to lose a friend, but who is themselves powerless to help in any meaningful way.
We hate that we've had to write this post, and that we're begging for help here, but we have exhausted all other options we're aware of.
This post is about @lexi.
Some of you may know her already. Of those that do, some of you may know why she suddenly stopped posting for a while on fedi, but we suspect that many do not.
Lexi is a neurodivergent, queer, trans+ girl who is stuck in Virginia, USA. Her life to-date has been filled with neglect, abuse, and abandonment by those around her.
She began relying on self-harm as a coping mechanism... and never stopped.
Sadly, we need to give details here, so please double-check the CWs again before continuing. There's no turning back beyond this point.
Lexi has experienced several major mental health breaks over her life, and has been abused in many ways by those she believed cared for her.
During a break in 2019-2020, Lexi's parents responded to seeing her wounds by having her institutionalised for 8 months.
Lexi began to build up what she believed to be her first friend base in about 2020. She even entered into a relationship with somebody within this group. However, she did not realise at first just how abusive all of them, especially her partner, were being to her. And over time, they all pushed Lexi to breaking point.
When she found the strength and courage to speak up and call them out in 2023, everything went nuclear. The entire group completely lost their shit, doing everything they could to hurt her, including:
They even had the fucking malicious gall to say that she had been "quiet every other fucking time" they abused or mistreated her.
And then, after all of this, they abandoned her entirely.
In July 2025, Lexi tried to take her own life and very-nearly succeeded. She was sent to hospital, but instead of being given the urgent, emergency care she needed, she:
On top of this major medical neglect, she was then fobbed off to a social worker, who promised her that they wouldn't forcibly institutionalise her, but lied and did so anyway.
Lexi had to BEG her way out of that forced institutionalisation, which required her to heavily mask and play the role of the "model patient".
If you don't know how truly cruel and torturous institutionalisation is for anybody, let alone a neurodivergent, trans+, queer person in the US, please pause reading this post, look up how inhumane it is, before reading any further.
After everything above, feeling a desperate need to not be alone, Lexi accepted an offer to go to somebody's house… and was sexually assaulted (raped) 😔
We've intentionally left out a lot of stuff that Lexi has informed us about, as it's already been difficult enough for her: we don't want her to have to keep reliving, retelling, and revisiting every awful thing she's ever been through 🥺
We've only given this much info in order to make it clear just how badly Lexi has been mistreated by most people her entire life.
And this is what leads into recent events.
In early October 2025, Lexi experienced another serious mental health break and tried to take her own life again.
She was extremely dissociative, anaemic, and deprived, and remembers very little of the experience. Her friends naïvely called the authorities for assistance, despite Lexi having pleaded with them previously to never do so, based on her previous torturous experiences.
Instead of sending medical assistance, the authorities sent out cops 🤦♀️
In desperation, Lexi tried to end herself as swiftly as possible.
Predictably, instead of helping her, the cops proceeded to taze, physically abuse, and assault her.
Lexi does not know precisely what her friends did, but it resulted in the state being temporarily given custody of her, so that they could bypass the fact that she was an adult, and force her into being institutionalised.
Lexi was thrown into a tiny cell, with a spit bag forced over her head. She tried to use it to strangle herself, which just led to them taking it away, leaving her even more broken and sobbing, pleading to die.
But the cops, being heinous scum, didn't just stop there. They physically, mentally, and emotionally abused her by:
Having her SSRI meds forcibly taken from her and then denied caused Lexi sudden, extreme antidepressant withdrawal. She already suffers with intense nerve pain and major sensitivity issues due to being neurodivergent, so the effects were made even worse.
It made all her sensory issues beyond overwhelming.
It was so bad that it made her brain feel like it was spasming from electric shocks over and over from the pervasive light and noise.
Her mother was able to deliver her spironolactone (an antiandrogen) a week after incarceration, but Lexi was only given 1 pill a day, despite her being prescribed 1 in the morning and 2 in the evening.
All her other meds, including additional GAHT ones (e.g., estradiol; micronised progesterone), were intentionally and maliciously withheld from her.
In terms of GAHT alone, this was a form of forced medical conversion therapy, which is considered a form of torture.
Lexi was forced to endure the following in order:
After her lawyer was allowed to speak with her in jail, her friends co-ordinated with her lawyer to write letters of support about her character, making it clear that she's not a bad person and to plead for the judge to be merciful to her.
These letters ended up being presented to the judge at the case, as you'll read below, but he didn't even end up reading them 
🤦♀️
Lexi was only released back home until the preliminary hearing date (2026-02-02) after her lawyer finally managed to convince them that holding her was unnecessary.
In spite of being wronged, Lexi was charged with trumped up felony charges as follows:
Lexi's lawyer sadly gave her unreasonable hopes, advising her that:
This sounded almost like good news. Surely nothing could go wrong… right?
Right?! 🥺😔
Suffice to say, it did not go well.
Lexi was given only 2 choices:
She was forced to make a decision right there and then, with no opportunity provided to think and reflect with her lawyer.
In order to avoid jail, she had no choice but to pick option 2, and had to sign legally-binding papers immediately.
Whilst a mental health bond might seem like a softer option, in reality it's just a longer, different kind of punishment for Lexi, whom -- we repeat -- did nothing wrong.
This legal bond takes away Lexi's freedoms and rights, compelling her to:
Furthermore, she cannot leave the US for 2 years and will be actively monitored to ensure her compliance.
Her other medical and support needs were, of course, not taken into consideration, particularly the constant pain she is in.
Her lawyer seemingly forgot his threat to go to the media about her mistreatment… or just somehow didn't consider this option unethical.
The only saving grace is that she's not been bound specifically to Virginia, though it's possible her court-mandated treatment may be based there.
And Lexi did finally at least get her passport back... for what little it's worth right now 🥺
Lexi must attend a further stressful, painful court date in a month's time (2026-03-04), at which point all of the above will formally commence.
When it does, Lexi will begin 2 years of an even-worse hell than she's currently in.
And as it stands, Lexi will not even survive until the court date.
She is fighting a daily battle with neuropathic pain, depression, anxiety, stress, dissociation, and -- perhaps worse than all of these -- loneliness, living with parents who cannot meet, are not meeting, and will never meet her support needs.
And without the ability to leave the US, she will not be able to see her girlfriends (@lea and @wiki) at all now for over 2 years 😢
Lexi is just one bad break away from being gone forever.
Lexi needs a quiet, stable safe place to escape to, away from her parents' house.
Somewhere she can hide away when she needs to be alone.
Somewhere and hang out to socialise whenever she's lonely.
Somewhere away from all the trauma.
She needs some folks, any folks, whom she can trust and rely on to around her: folks who will understand and respect her needs and boundaries.
She needs to be around others who won't judge her, criticise her, gaslight her, abuse her, or abandon her, and who won't ever call the emergency services on her again 🥺
She's had too much of this already in her life 😔
She just needs a safe place, with kind, supportive folks. And sadly it has to be within the US... as we don't know anybody who could successfully smuggle her into a safe adjacent country where she could successfully claim asylum¹.
Again, we must stress that Lexi will certainly not survive the next month even without support, let alone the next 2 years.
We are begging you: if you know Lexi even somewhat, please reach out to offer her support 
If you're worried about overloading her, you could always reach out to her girlfriends to ask how you can help.
At a push you can reach out to us, but honestly we cannot do any more than message her here or on Signal. All we've done is try to be there for her and help a little where we can behind the scenes.
We desperately want Lexi to be able to live, but she needs a decent quality of life for that to happen.
She's not really living right now, and she hasn't been for a long time: she's just existing... and existing isn't enough of a reason when you're constantly suffering 😔
Unfortunately that is something that we are intimately familiar with ourselves.
Lexi needs help and support, urgently and desperately.
If you can offer this to her, and can promise that you will never put her at risk, then please reach out to her 🥺
Thank you 🫶
#MentalHealth #depression #anxiety #NeuropathicPain #trans #transgender #TransFem #queer #LGBTQ+ #LGBTQIA+ #neurodivergent #neurodivergence #disability #ChronicPain #ActuallyAutistic #ACAB #HealthCare #PleaseBoost #BoostsWelcome #EmergencyHelpNeeded #UrgentHelp #help #support #fediverse #USA #Virginia
¹ For legal reasons, we must advise that this is entirely in jest, as part of our dark humour for coping with all of this.
Up front, please note that we sought explicit permission before even drafting this, asked for checks of drafts and redrafts, and ensured final approval before publishing this post.
Please consider this post a last-ditch plea for support and help, where all other efforts over the last month have failed spectacularly, from somebody who does not want to lose a friend, but who is themselves powerless to help in any meaningful way.
We hate that we've had to write this post, and that we're begging for help here, but we have exhausted all other options we're aware of.
This post is about @lexi.
Some of you may know her already. Of those that do, some of you may know why she suddenly stopped posting for a while on fedi, but we suspect that many do not.
Lexi is a neurodivergent, queer, trans+ girl who is stuck in Virginia, USA. Her life to-date has been filled with neglect, abuse, and abandonment by those around her.
She began relying on self-harm as a coping mechanism... and never stopped.
Sadly, we need to give details here, so please double-check the CWs again before continuing. There's no turning back beyond this point.
Lexi has experienced several major mental health breaks over her life, and has been abused in many ways by those she believed cared for her.
During a break in 2019-2020, Lexi's parents responded to seeing her wounds by having her institutionalised for 8 months.
Lexi began to build up what she believed to be her first friend base in about 2020. She even entered into a relationship with somebody within this group. However, she did not realise at first just how abusive all of them, especially her partner, were being to her. And over time, they all pushed Lexi to breaking point.
When she found the strength and courage to speak up and call them out in 2023, everything went nuclear. The entire group completely lost their shit, doing everything they could to hurt her, including:
They even had the fucking malicious gall to say that she had been "quiet every other fucking time" they abused or mistreated her.
And then, after all of this, they abandoned her entirely.
In July 2025, Lexi tried to take her own life and very-nearly succeeded. She was sent to hospital, but instead of being given the urgent, emergency care she needed, she:
On top of this major medical neglect, she was then fobbed off to a social worker, who promised her that they wouldn't forcibly institutionalise her, but lied and did so anyway.
Lexi had to BEG her way out of that forced institutionalisation, which required her to heavily mask and play the role of the "model patient".
If you don't know how truly cruel and torturous institutionalisation is for anybody, let alone a neurodivergent, trans+, queer person in the US, please pause reading this post, look up how inhumane it is, before reading any further.
After everything above, feeling a desperate need to not be alone, Lexi accepted an offer to go to somebody's house… and was sexually assaulted (raped) 😔
We've intentionally left out a lot of stuff that Lexi has informed us about, as it's already been difficult enough for her: we don't want her to have to keep reliving, retelling, and revisiting every awful thing she's ever been through 🥺
We've only given this much info in order to make it clear just how badly Lexi has been mistreated by most people her entire life.
And this is what leads into recent events.
In early October 2025, Lexi experienced another serious mental health break and tried to take her own life again.
She was extremely dissociative, anaemic, and deprived, and remembers very little of the experience. Her friends naïvely called the authorities for assistance, despite Lexi having pleaded with them previously to never do so, based on her previous torturous experiences.
Instead of sending medical assistance, the authorities sent out cops 🤦♀️
In desperation, Lexi tried to end herself as swiftly as possible.
Predictably, instead of helping her, the cops proceeded to taze, physically abuse, and assault her.
Lexi does not know precisely what her friends did, but it resulted in the state being temporarily given custody of her, so that they could bypass the fact that she was an adult, and force her into being institutionalised.
Lexi was thrown into a tiny cell, with a spit bag forced over her head. She tried to use it to strangle herself, which just led to them taking it away, leaving her even more broken and sobbing, pleading to die.
But the cops, being heinous scum, didn't just stop there. They physically, mentally, and emotionally abused her by:
Having her SSRI meds forcibly taken from her and then denied caused Lexi sudden, extreme antidepressant withdrawal. She already suffers with intense nerve pain and major sensitivity issues due to being neurodivergent, so the effects were made even worse.
It made all her sensory issues beyond overwhelming.
It was so bad that it made her brain feel like it was spasming from electric shocks over and over from the pervasive light and noise.
Her mother was able to deliver her spironolactone (an antiandrogen) a week after incarceration, but Lexi was only given 1 pill a day, despite her being prescribed 1 in the morning and 2 in the evening.
All her other meds, including additional GAHT ones (e.g., estradiol; micronised progesterone), were intentionally and maliciously withheld from her.
In terms of GAHT alone, this was a form of forced medical conversion therapy, which is considered a form of torture.
Lexi was forced to endure the following in order:
After her lawyer was allowed to speak with her in jail, her friends co-ordinated with her lawyer to write letters of support about her character, making it clear that she's not a bad person and to plead for the judge to be merciful to her.
These letters ended up being presented to the judge at the case, as you'll read below, but he didn't even end up reading them 🤦♀️
Lexi was only released back home until the preliminary hearing date (2026-02-02) after her lawyer finally managed to convince them that holding her was unnecessary.
In spite of being wronged, Lexi was charged with trumped up felony charges as follows:
Lexi's lawyer sadly gave her unreasonable hopes, advising her that:
This sounded almost like good news. Surely nothing could go wrong… right?
Right?! 🥺😔
Suffice to say, it did not go well.
Lexi was given only 2 choices:
She was forced to make a decision right there and then, with no opportunity provided to think and reflect with her lawyer.
In order to avoid jail, she had no choice but to pick option 2, and had to sign legally-binding papers immediately.
Whilst a mental health bond might seem like a softer option, in reality it's just a longer, different kind of punishment for Lexi, whom -- we repeat -- did nothing wrong.
This legal bond takes away Lexi's freedoms and rights, compelling her to:
Furthermore, she cannot leave the US for 2 years and will be actively monitored to ensure her compliance.
Her other medical and support needs were, of course, not taken into consideration, particularly the constant pain she is in.
Her lawyer seemingly forgot his threat to go to the media about her mistreatment… or just somehow didn't consider this option unethical.
The only saving grace is that she's not been bound specifically to Virginia, though it's possible her court-mandated treatment may be based there.
And Lexi did finally at least get her passport back... for what little it's worth right now 🥺
Lexi must attend a further stressful, painful court date in a month's time (2026-03-04), at which point all of the above will formally commence.
When it does, Lexi will begin 2 years of an even-worse hell than she's currently in.
And as it stands, Lexi will not even survive until the court date.
She is fighting a daily battle with neuropathic pain, depression, anxiety, stress, dissociation, and -- perhaps worse than all of these -- loneliness, living with parents who cannot meet, are not meeting, and will never meet her support needs.
And without the ability to leave the US, she will not be able to see her girlfriends (@lea and @wiki) at all now for over 2 years 😢
Lexi is just one bad break away from being gone forever.
Lexi needs a quiet, stable safe place to escape to, away from her parents' house.
Somewhere she can hide away when she needs to be alone.
Somewhere and hang out to socialise whenever she's lonely.
Somewhere away from all the trauma.
She needs some folks, any folks, whom she can trust and rely on to around her: folks who will understand and respect her needs and boundaries.
She needs to be around others who won't judge her, criticise her, gaslight her, abuse her, or abandon her, and who won't ever call the emergency services on her again 🥺
She's had too much of this already in her life 😔
She just needs a safe place, with kind, supportive folks. And sadly it has to be within the US... as we don't know anybody who could successfully smuggle her into a safe adjacent country where she could successfully claim asylum¹.
Again, we must stress that Lexi will certainly not survive the next month even without support, let alone the next 2 years.
We are begging you: if you know Lexi even somewhat, please reach out to offer her support
If you're worried about overloading her, you could always reach out to her girlfriends to ask how you can help.
At a push you can reach out to us, but honestly we cannot do any more than message her here or on Signal. All we've done is try to be there for her and help a little where we can behind the scenes.
We desperately want Lexi to be able to live, but she needs a decent quality of life for that to happen.
She's not really living right now, and she hasn't been for a long time: she's just existing... and existing isn't enough of a reason when you're constantly suffering 😔
Unfortunately that is something that we are intimately familiar with ourselves.
Lexi needs help and support, urgently and desperately.
If you can offer this to her, and can promise that you will never put her at risk, then please reach out to her 🥺
Thank you 🫶
#MentalHealth #depression #anxiety #NeuropathicPain #trans #transgender #TransFem #queer #LGBTQ+ #LGBTQIA+ #neurodivergent #neurodivergence #disability #ChronicPain #ActuallyAutistic #ACAB #HealthCare #PleaseBoost #BoostsWelcome #EmergencyHelpNeeded #UrgentHelp #help #support #fediverse #USA #Virginia
¹ For legal reasons, we must advise that this is entirely in jest, as part of our dark humour for coping with all of this.
Hi, I’m Ro! I’m a self-loving antizionist Jew and a self-hating lawyer. 
I live on unceded Interior Salish land in the Pacific Northwest of what’s known to some, for now, as the US with my wife & our dogs. 🏳️🌈 Our family is WASP, Ashkenazi & Nicaraguan. 🥰 I practice deportation defense and I’m an abolitionist.
✨Find me enjoying hiking & biking & reading & writing & music & collage.✨
🏔️For hiking & snowshoeing I’m usually somewhere in the PNW, preferably going to the top of something or at least seeing some cool trees or rocks or moss. I’m a bike commuter! 🚲
📚Favorite novels include Babel by R.F. Kuang, Parable of the Sower by Octavia Butler, No.6 by Asano Atsuko, Taiwan Travelogue by Yáng Shuāng-zi & Future Home of the Living God by Louise Erdrich. Favorite nonfiction includes Fresh Banana Leaves by Jessica Hernández, The Other Slavery by Andres Reséndez & Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown. And my favorite manga ever is Fullmetal Alchemist - unbeatable IMO (although I am loving The Summer Hikaru Died these days). I’m rodile on Storygraph.
✏️Current writing projects include a novel about lesbian ecoterrorists & an amorphous story about an anarchist-reformist enemies-to-lovers-to-enemies? situationship.
🎶Music I love includes Mitski, The Muslims, The Gits, Left at London & Doechii. I also love swimming and sleeping and petting my dogs!!!! And persimmons 😅
English, español, 普通话都可以！I usually follow (back) if it seems like we’d vibe. I’m honestly a nice person but I’m angry all the time. I like emojis and ampersands and alt text. This post is very long but I wasn’t sure what to include & I believe it’ll get cut so I hope it’s not too annoying! I am hoping to connect with more people on here. Here are a bunch of tags to either filter this post out or find it! :)
#longPost #introduction #mosstodon #vegan #languageLearning #writingCommunity #lesbian #USpol #books #reading #law #immigration #Jewish #LGBTQ #queer #music #abolition #fuckICE #freePalestine #hiking #bikeTooter #PNW
Olivia Colman: 'I've always felt sort of nonbinary'
https://www.out.com/celebs/olivia-colman-coming-out-nonbinary
What can a TV show teach us about reality? Despite some predictable pairings and sentimental soliloquies, “The Boyfriend” offers one of the most prominent spaces in Japan for mainstream queer representation. https://www.japantimes.co.jp/culture/2026/02/06/tv-streaming/the-boyfriend-reality-tv/?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=mastodon #culture #tvstreaming #netflix #lgbtq #dating #relationships #streaming #japanesetv
