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@Crissy@tech.lgbt  ·  activity timestamp yesterday

Friendship in a 24/7 Digital World (1 of 2)

Seen many stories about ghosting. But there’s another trend: the "Professional Breakup."

I had a strange experience recently when I spent a week offline to focus on work, volunteer projects, and my foster kitty.

During that week, a professional friend sent me a long note. He told me he was leaving our connection for his own mental health.

Because I hadn't logged into WhatsApp for 7 days, he felt I wasn't "there for him" enough despite being there for him all year!

Why do people "poof" or break up with friends so quickly?

Some people need daily messages to feel safe. If you don't reply fast, they feel dropped!

There’s a real human with a real life on the other side of the screen. We start treating people like phone apps. If they don't update every day, we think they're broken.

It’s not about your value. It’s about their capacity. If you're busy fostering animals or building a career, you're practicing real-world Presence. That's a high-vibe way to live.

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Sun Kitty ☀️
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@Crissy@tech.lgbt  ·  activity timestamp yesterday

Friendship in a 24/7 Digital World (2 of 2)

A true friend understands that life has seasons. Sometimes we talk every hour. Sometimes we go quiet to focus on our service to others.

Self-Respect Tip: Don't apologize for having a life. Real friends don't demand all your energy. They celebrate the fact that you’re out in the world making a difference.

In the Year of the Horse, we move with purpose. If someone can't keep up with your pace of service, it’s okay to let them go. Your Inner Circle should be made of people who respect your silence as much as your speech.

Quick Glossary:

Async: We don't have to be online at the same time. You message now; I reply when I’m free.

Capacity: How much energy a person has. If someone leaves after a week of silence, their "tank" is just full of their own stress.

Boundaries: Being reachable 24/7 is a choice, not a rule.

We value slow, deep connection. Join us at the #FediCollective in Vancouver for IRL coffee chats

Find your herd: https://fedicollective.lovable.app/

close up face photo of a beautiful black horse for Year of the Horse
close up face photo of a beautiful black horse for Year of the Horse
close up face photo of a beautiful black horse for Year of the Horse
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