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Hey, it's time to have the consent chat with folx again! Yay!
So, I know I can sometimes come across as flirty, maybe even a little sexual...and I am. BUT that doesn't mean that everyone gets an evergreen ticket to ride.
Consent is an ongoing process—continuing education—not a one-and-done checkbox.
Boundaries change, and so do circumstances. Just because we had hot cybersex a week ago doesn't mean I'm down for pet names or roleplay today. The number of unsolicited dick pics I've seen in Signal this week is too damn high! (the solicited number was just about right)
There's a distinction between different mediums and contexts. Like, my nudes are there for your enjoyment. I know y'all touch yourselves to 'em, and that's pretty hot. But it's not an open invitation to hit me up on Signal like we're dating (unless we actually are).
I value my wholesome-ish designation, and I try hard to be as—if not more—well-known for my community-building, outreach, and research as I am for my body.
So, ask. Ask early and often. And if I say no, it's not personal...it's preference. I prefer friends, open chats, and enthusiastic informed consent.
TL;DR; Fedi is for friends, community, and fun—all of which I prefer to do in public interactions. Flirting is encouraged, but either keep it light (or be really clever with the punnuendos).
In contrast, I use Signal for messages that are too personal or private for Fedi. Sometimes things get intimate, but this isn't OnlyFans chat.
I've noticed that since starting @AltAfterDark, I've been getting a lot more chat requests on Signal, and I've already had to remind several of those folx that escalating requires new consent for each session and that I'm not an on-demand fantasy.
Hey, it's time to have the consent chat with folx again! Yay!
So, I know I can sometimes come across as flirty, maybe even a little sexual...and I am. BUT that doesn't mean that everyone gets an evergreen ticket to ride.
Consent is an ongoing process—continuing education—not a one-and-done checkbox.
Boundaries change, and so do circumstances. Just because we had hot cybersex a week ago doesn't mean I'm down for pet names or roleplay today. The number of unsolicited dick pics I've seen in Signal this week is too damn high! (the solicited number was just about right)
There's a distinction between different mediums and contexts. Like, my nudes are there for your enjoyment. I know y'all touch yourselves to 'em, and that's pretty hot. But it's not an open invitation to hit me up on Signal like we're dating (unless we actually are).
I value my wholesome-ish designation, and I try hard to be as—if not more—well-known for my community-building, outreach, and research as I am for my body.
So, ask. Ask early and often. And if I say no, it's not personal...it's preference. I prefer friends, open chats, and enthusiastic informed consent.
TL;DR; Fedi is for friends, community, and fun—all of which I prefer to do in public interactions. Flirting is encouraged, but either keep it light (or be really clever with the punnuendos).
In contrast, I use Signal for messages that are too personal or private for Fedi. Sometimes things get intimate, but this isn't OnlyFans chat.
I've noticed that since starting @AltAfterDark, I've been getting a lot more chat requests on Signal, and I've already had to remind several of those folx that escalating requires new consent for each session and that I'm not an on-demand fantasy.
ALERT for Bluesky Bridge Users 🚨 🦋
If you are using a Bluesky bridge on Mastodon, DO NOT TAG Mastodon accounts in your posts without prior informed consent from this person.
This could end up showing a preview of this person's profile picture and bio on Bluesky without their consent.
Additionally, be careful about how the upcoming Quote Post feature could behave with Bluesky bridges.
Some of us don't want our information shared with commercial platforms like Bluesky, and have not consented to this bridge.
This practice can even endanger some Fediverse users.
If you have chosen to share your
own data with commercial platforms, make sure you leave the same choice to others.
This is important.
🚨 WARNING: Google is trying to force you into using #Gemini AI on Android in #Gmail, #WhatsApp & other apps - hijacking your data for "AI training"
This is opted in by default – so check your Settings to opt out.
Here’s how: 👉 https://tuta.com/blog/how-to-disable-gemini-on-android
ALERT for Bluesky Bridge Users 🚨 🦋
If you are using a Bluesky bridge on Mastodon, DO NOT TAG Mastodon accounts in your posts without prior informed consent from this person.
This could end up showing a preview of this person's profile picture and bio on Bluesky without their consent.
Additionally, be careful about how the upcoming Quote Post feature could behave with Bluesky bridges.
Some of us don't want our information shared with commercial platforms like Bluesky, and have not consented to this bridge.
This practice can even endanger some Fediverse users.
If you have chosen to share your
own data with commercial platforms, make sure you leave the same choice to others.
This is important.
« The #Internet of #Consent : Click “I agree” to continue. You didn’t click it, though. Or maybe you did ? I don’t know, it doesn’t matter. »
By @anildash
› https://www.anildash.com//2025/05/27/2025-05-27-internet-of-consent/
The ability to pin multiple posts and have them visible at the top of your profile was among the features that made #Mastodon more appealing than other platforms. Now that's been wiped out overnight without any option for users to choose whether their profile reflects the change. What happened to respecting user's choice or preferences?
Whoever has been in charge of UI changes for the past couple of updates really needs to be assigned to something else. How much more are they going to destroy?
No one is going to see the tiny arrow controls and scroll sideways through the multiple pinned posts. They're just going to see the top one. Over time people will stop pinning any more than one post because there will be no point, and #Mastodon will be just the same as every other generic social media platform.
The pinned post carousel absolutely should have been an option in the settings, not swept across the board as a default.
In #Mastodon 4.4 they've added the horrible popup window from #Bluesky when you try to click on a #hashtag.
If I wanted to do something weird with the hashtag, I'd right click it. Now I need to make an extra click every single time I just want to view the posts. It's one of the worst features of Bluesky, and they've added it into Mastodon.
It doesn't even do anything useful like tell you if you're following the hashtag.
Every time they update the Mastodon UI they make it worse.
« The #Internet of #Consent : Click “I agree” to continue. You didn’t click it, though. Or maybe you did ? I don’t know, it doesn’t matter. »
By @anildash
› https://www.anildash.com//2025/05/27/2025-05-27-internet-of-consent/
A space for Bonfire maintainers and contributors to communicate
