Today I had a moment of autistic joy in a social situation.

Where I live there are no parks close by, but three beautiful graveyards, where I go for a walk with Lumi daily.

This morning a woman asked me for specific details about the graveyards, because she wanted to attend a funeral and didn't know which of the three was the right one and I was able to provide these details for her, because recognising details and patterns is how my autistic mind works and experiences joy. It made me very happy that I was able to help her and that I had a social interaction without having to mask my autism, but it being useful for someone else instead.

This reminds me of the comment on my post about infodumping concerning the autistic need of gaining knowledge and sharing it with others.

"As an autist, adquiring expertise on something and beeing helpfull with it feels central to socialisation." @maleza

So true.

#ActuallyAutistic #autism #AuDHD #neurodivergent @autistics

Today I had a moment of autistic joy in a social situation.

Where I live there are no parks close by, but three beautiful graveyards, where I go for a walk with Lumi daily.

This morning a woman asked me for specific details about the graveyards, because she wanted to attend a funeral and didn't know which of the three was the right one and I was able to provide these details for her, because recognising details and patterns is how my autistic mind works and experiences joy. It made me very happy that I was able to help her and that I had a social interaction without having to mask my autism, but it being useful for someone else instead.

This reminds me of the comment on my post about infodumping concerning the autistic need of gaining knowledge and sharing it with others.

"As an autist, adquiring expertise on something and beeing helpfull with it feels central to socialisation." @maleza

So true.

#ActuallyAutistic #autism #AuDHD #neurodivergent @autistics

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

I wanted to make explicit why I am so deeply opposed to even someone as incompetent and unscientific as RFK Jr' investigating autism for its "cause".

It is because in my reading of history, no one has ever looked for a "cause" of some human condition without at least considering the possibility of finding an off switch.

Now when we're talking cancer, that's good and appropriate. It kills people. Greed, too, should be carefully fought. It kills way more people.

But autism doesn't generally kill. Not directtly, certainly. It's just a different way of thinking and perceiving and being present in the world. It's not a disease, and autistic people don't need to be "cured".

And more importantly, humanity needs not to look for, let alone find or develop, that off switch.

It's flat out eugenics. The elimination of undesirables. Doing it before we're born doesn't make it okay. Doesn't make it morally right. We contribute to the world in many ways. To society. Even if we don't always understand it.

But we uphold the social contract. Well, unless someone figures out that it's all based on BS, then it gets trickier, but as a rule, we do uphold the social contract.

So yes. If someone says they're looking for the "cause" of something that doesn't actually harm anyone, like transgender identity, or nonbinaryness, or asexuality, or autism, or anything else that's frankly harming almost no one, start asking them *why* they want to find that cause. What do they want to do once they find it?

Cause you turn over enough rocks, sometimes you get the bugs with the swastikas on them.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

I wanted to make explicit why I am so deeply opposed to even someone as incompetent and unscientific as RFK Jr' investigating autism for its "cause".

It is because in my reading of history, no one has ever looked for a "cause" of some human condition without at least considering the possibility of finding an off switch.

Now when we're talking cancer, that's good and appropriate. It kills people. Greed, too, should be carefully fought. It kills way more people.

But autism doesn't generally kill. Not directtly, certainly. It's just a different way of thinking and perceiving and being present in the world. It's not a disease, and autistic people don't need to be "cured".

And more importantly, humanity needs not to look for, let alone find or develop, that off switch.

It's flat out eugenics. The elimination of undesirables. Doing it before we're born doesn't make it okay. Doesn't make it morally right. We contribute to the world in many ways. To society. Even if we don't always understand it.

But we uphold the social contract. Well, unless someone figures out that it's all based on BS, then it gets trickier, but as a rule, we do uphold the social contract.

So yes. If someone says they're looking for the "cause" of something that doesn't actually harm anyone, like transgender identity, or nonbinaryness, or asexuality, or autism, or anything else that's frankly harming almost no one, start asking them *why* they want to find that cause. What do they want to do once they find it?

Cause you turn over enough rocks, sometimes you get the bugs with the swastikas on them.

OK brain, but Escape (the piña colada song) doesn't actually go:

🎶IF YOU LIKE PENIS ENLARGERS🎶

#audhd #autism #adhd #disability #neurodiverse #echolalia

OK brain, but Escape (the piña colada song) doesn't actually go:

🎶IF YOU LIKE PENIS ENLARGERS🎶

#audhd #autism #adhd #disability #neurodiverse #echolalia

Problems with executive disfunction and the task requires movement?

Try this song on repeat. I works even better on headphones. If it doesn't make you get up, you probably shouldn't.

https://youtu.be/fI5m695VF5M?si=1UvbjokJa-f724TW

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #ElectronicMusic

Problems with executive disfunction and the task requires movement?

Try this song on repeat. I works even better on headphones. If it doesn't make you get up, you probably shouldn't.

https://youtu.be/fI5m695VF5M?si=1UvbjokJa-f724TW

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #ElectronicMusic

When you decide to ride to the store rather than drive and end up overwhelmed by smog, entitled drivers, a sweaty back, no stock of the one thing you actually needed, and reawakened joint pain you thought had backed off.

And how was your Wednesday, my #ActuallyAutistic friends?

@actuallyautistic
@actuallyadhd

#ActuallyAutistic#ActuallyADHD#auDHD

It's hard to be creative when you're afraid, because creativity is, at its essence, a vulnerable act.

#ActuallyAutistic#Autistic#AuDHD#Neurospicy#Neurodiversity

It's hard to be creative when you're afraid, because creativity is, at its essence, a vulnerable act.

#ActuallyAutistic#Autistic#AuDHD#Neurospicy#Neurodiversity

Curious how #AuDHD people handle #dragoncon ? Soooo many people. Sensory overload. Only thing I can think of is the amount of interesting keeps people engaged until it's over, so there's a meltdown after? Or at least days of recovery.

Masking takes an extraordinary amount of energy, it causes autistic burnout, high levels of stress, people avoidance, demand avoidance, it makes me more irritable and unpleasant to be around, and has all sorts of major physical and mental health effects.

#AutisticMasking#ActuallyAutistic#Autistic#AuDHD#Neurodiversity#AutisticBurnout

Masking takes an extraordinary amount of energy, it causes autistic burnout, high levels of stress, people avoidance, demand avoidance, it makes me more irritable and unpleasant to be around, and has all sorts of major physical and mental health effects.

#AutisticMasking#ActuallyAutistic#Autistic#AuDHD#Neurodiversity#AutisticBurnout

Want the good parts of habit trackers and star charts but without the same trigger when you miss a day?
I made a guilt-free progress tracker for AuDHDers and Autists
Free PDF download.

https://www.autismchrysalis.com/hexagon/

#ActuallyAutistic#AuDHD#Autistic#Neurospicy#Neurodiversity

Want the good parts of habit trackers and star charts but without the same trigger when you miss a day?
I made a guilt-free progress tracker for AuDHDers and Autists
Free PDF download.

https://www.autismchrysalis.com/hexagon/

#ActuallyAutistic#AuDHD#Autistic#Neurospicy#Neurodiversity

Les Parques -

À mon psy, j'ai parlé de la douleur de constater qu'une fois que j'arrête les efforts vers ma famille héritée, les signes de leur part s'arrêtent ; et quand j'ai parlé de la sensation d'isolement que me procure le fait de voir mes amies, exes et amoureuses s'amuser en groupe par leurs histoires a posteriori, je reviens à la même douleur familiale. Quand je crains de moins voir mon enfant si je contrarie ma co-maman, je reviens aux mêmes peurs. Ça fait réfléchir à ce que j'ai choisi avec ma famille héritée : j'ai remplacé le stress quotidien par une douleur sourde et permanente. Je connais ce creux, il m'accompagne depuis les cours de récréation, le paradoxe autistique de vouloir être incluse, mais d'être exténuée par les interactions et le bruit. Au moins maintenant je sais le prévoir, mais ça ne résout pas le manque.
J'ai choisi de quitter Paris parce que Paris me tuait, pour trouver le calme à la campagne, et je n'y trouve pas d'équilibre.

Je ne fais pas un parallèle avec une scène du film The Hours, mais elle tourne dans ma tête alors je la partage avec le psy, qui semble la connaître aussi bien que moi. Lui l'a vu il y a peu, mais moi les dialogues résonnent comme des acouphènes, que je le veuille ou pas. Leonard et Virginia ont quitté Londres pour trouver le calme à la campagne, parce que les médecins ont déterminé que la vie sociale frénétique de Londres tuait Virginia. Elle est partie contre son gré, et se morfond à Richmond, et rêve de revenir à la capitale. La comparaison est brève : c'est moi qui ait voulu partir, et je ne veux pas revenir à Paris. Je voudrais être sereine à la campagne, et une vie sociale me manque. J'avais aimé faire cette comparaison au moment de quitter Paris ; maintenant je détesterais me retrouver dans Virginia qui hurle vouloir repartir.

J'aimais ma sluttiness parisienne ; j'ai encore beaucoup à écrire sur mon spectre asexuel, l'impact de la transition, des hormones, du déménagement. En attendant, ma slut est en manque. Elle veut reprendre du service.

J'aime ces moments de connexion avec mon psy, l'impression d'être entendue, et j'aime qu'il fasse des commentaires. Il me parle du lien à la douleur de la vie, et à la mort, du fil qui est façonné, mesuré et coupé par les Heures. Je l'interromps.
« C'est drôle, j'ai essayé il y a quelques jours d'insérer une références aux Parques dans le scénario que j'écris avec une amie.
— Je ne suis pas surpris.
— Mais vous venez de faire un lien entre The Hours et les Heures, les Parques, et j'ai la tête qui explose.
— Il semble que ça ne soit jamais évoqué dans les critiques mais pour moi c'est un lien fort entre les deux, oui. »

J'explose, mindblown, je n'arrive plus a me contrôler. Les larmes montent. Le film joue en accéléré dans ma tête.
« Je viens de comprendre le dernier monologue de Richard. »
Je n'arrive plus à parler à travers mes larmes. Il ne peut plus que m'attendre. J'ai adoré ce film depuis plus de vingt ans, il a changé ma vie, la musique que j'écoute, j'ai littéralement vécu à Richmond avant de venir vivre à Paris. Et je suis passée à côté de ce parallèle. J'ai besoin de voir le film de nouveau, avec ce nouvel élément. Qui veut m'accompagner ?

https://jena.pink/les-parques
#psy#TheHours#Paris#London#AuDHD