Like many other autistic and/or disabled people I will spend Christmas on my own and while I appreciate my alone time and the atmosphere and the silence of it, I know it can be difficult and hurtful.

So I would like to connect with other people who spend Christmas on their own or experience feelings of loneliness during these days, by interacting with this post.

That can be just leaving and receiving a virtual hug or telling each other about the gifts you received or gave yourself during the year, maybe share a piece of music, write about your favourite video game or any other special interest. You can do this in private mode (English or German), I know that interacting with groups can be difficult, impossible sometimes, but every now and then I write posts like this during a moment of bravery and I already found amazing online friends by doing so.

Let's support each other in a world that makes building connection so difficult and feelings of loneliness so common.

Boosts are very much appreciated. Thank you.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #disabled #ChronicallyIll #neurodivergent #MentalHealth

Believing that your wants exist, matter, and can be met, is the first step in learning to figure out what you want.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity #Interoception #BurnoutRecovery

Rest is not optional. It is not laziness. It is not a luxury. It is not giving in. Rest is a survival necessity.

All living beings need rest and restoration periodically: daily, seasonally, yearly.

#ActuallyAutistic #EnergyManagement #AuDHD #BurnoutRecovery

Believing that your wants exist, matter, and can be met, is the first step in learning to figure out what you want.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity #Interoception #BurnoutRecovery

Rest is not optional. It is not laziness. It is not a luxury. It is not giving in. Rest is a survival necessity.

All living beings need rest and restoration periodically: daily, seasonally, yearly.

#ActuallyAutistic #EnergyManagement #AuDHD #BurnoutRecovery

Good day all! Upcoming episode of Fireside Fedi!

Livestream: ⁨https://stream.firesidefedi.live⁩

Special Guest: @JoBlakelyArt
#artist #oil #acrylic #digital #portraits #pets #commission #politics #socialJustice #symbolic #compassion #nonBinary #audhd #feminist

Date & Time: 2025-12-03 1400 UTC-5

After the show:
⁨#Peertube⁩ ⁨#VOD⁩ - ⁨https://video.firesidefedi.live⁩
⁨#Castopod⁩ ⁨#Fedicast⁩ - ⁨https://audio.firesidefedi.live⁩

⁨#Youtube⁩ - ⁨https://www.youtube.com/@btfree_org⁩

Yesterday I got to see a former poetry slammer - now comedian, whose career I have followed for over 10 years live for the first time.

When I got the ticket in January I was overjoyed. But the closer the date got, the more apprehensive I got. I was so scared to be hyped because I know how the saying goes. “Never meet your idols, you might get very disappointed very quickly.”

In the last couple of years he disclosed his own late-diagnosed neurodivergence as an AuDHDer and made it a bigger topic in his art.
He was one of the most influential poetry slammers who inspired me to start writing my own texts. I knew several texts by heart and honestly, I still know many passages of texts even now.

The hesitant tiny bouncy flapp flapps started when we arrived at the venue and I when the program was just so fucking amazing I spent all of the break bouncing up and down outside because I was overflowing with joy.
I laughed more and harder then the last couple of month combined.

After the show he gave autogramms and I swear my brain short circuited.
No words, just a shitton of happy chemicals. Bouncing up and down in front of him, hands flapping, a completely unmasked version of me.
I got a bit self-conscious when I heard people cooing behind me afterwards and I am still unsure how I feel about it.

During his performance he made some points that to me sounded like back-references to an old text of his and I just loudly blurted out a phrase from one of his former poetry slam texts from freaking 10 years ago. He immediately got the reference and was taken aback, even though he also looked happy and shocked. When the other people applauded after the show I made a finger heart and he saw it made one back.

I cannot put into words how happy all of this made me. I will forever treasure this.

The point I originally wanted to make was, how annoying it is that not only the big sad feelings but also the big happy feelings are exhausting.
But now I’m just happy all over again, having written this.

Brain is a mess in both good and bad ways.

#AuDHD #actuallyautistic #specialinterest #autisticJoy @autistics @actuallyadhd

Before getting diagnosed with #Autism and #ADHD I could never understand the fuss around mindfuless exercises. What do you mean I should notice the ticking of the clock, taste, breath, clothing and the patterns of things in front of my eyes, all at the same time to feel better? As an #AuDHD brain owner I have been doing full-time mindfulness shifts until shutdown forces me to have a break.

It shows for me how useless and harmful popular mental health advice can be for #neurodivergent folks.

Yesterday I got to see a former poetry slammer - now comedian, whose career I have followed for over 10 years live for the first time.

When I got the ticket in January I was overjoyed. But the closer the date got, the more apprehensive I got. I was so scared to be hyped because I know how the saying goes. “Never meet your idols, you might get very disappointed very quickly.”

In the last couple of years he disclosed his own late-diagnosed neurodivergence as an AuDHDer and made it a bigger topic in his art.
He was one of the most influential poetry slammers who inspired me to start writing my own texts. I knew several texts by heart and honestly, I still know many passages of texts even now.

The hesitant tiny bouncy flapp flapps started when we arrived at the venue and I when the program was just so fucking amazing I spent all of the break bouncing up and down outside because I was overflowing with joy.
I laughed more and harder then the last couple of month combined.

After the show he gave autogramms and I swear my brain short circuited.
No words, just a shitton of happy chemicals. Bouncing up and down in front of him, hands flapping, a completely unmasked version of me.
I got a bit self-conscious when I heard people cooing behind me afterwards and I am still unsure how I feel about it.

During his performance he made some points that to me sounded like back-references to an old text of his and I just loudly blurted out a phrase from one of his former poetry slam texts from freaking 10 years ago. He immediately got the reference and was taken aback, even though he also looked happy and shocked. When the other people applauded after the show I made a finger heart and he saw it made one back.

I cannot put into words how happy all of this made me. I will forever treasure this.

The point I originally wanted to make was, how annoying it is that not only the big sad feelings but also the big happy feelings are exhausting.
But now I’m just happy all over again, having written this.

Brain is a mess in both good and bad ways.

#AuDHD #actuallyautistic #specialinterest #autisticJoy @autistics @actuallyadhd

Before getting diagnosed with #Autism and #ADHD I could never understand the fuss around mindfuless exercises. What do you mean I should notice the ticking of the clock, taste, breath, clothing and the patterns of things in front of my eyes, all at the same time to feel better? As an #AuDHD brain owner I have been doing full-time mindfulness shifts until shutdown forces me to have a break.

It shows for me how useless and harmful popular mental health advice can be for #neurodivergent folks.

Today I had a moment of autistic joy in a social situation.

Where I live there are no parks close by, but three beautiful graveyards, where I go for a walk with Lumi daily.

This morning a woman asked me for specific details about the graveyards, because she wanted to attend a funeral and didn't know which of the three was the right one and I was able to provide these details for her, because recognising details and patterns is how my autistic mind works and experiences joy. It made me very happy that I was able to help her and that I had a social interaction without having to mask my autism, but it being useful for someone else instead.

This reminds me of the comment on my post about infodumping concerning the autistic need of gaining knowledge and sharing it with others.

"As an autist, adquiring expertise on something and beeing helpfull with it feels central to socialisation." @maleza

So true.

#ActuallyAutistic #autism #AuDHD #neurodivergent @autistics

Today I had a moment of autistic joy in a social situation.

Where I live there are no parks close by, but three beautiful graveyards, where I go for a walk with Lumi daily.

This morning a woman asked me for specific details about the graveyards, because she wanted to attend a funeral and didn't know which of the three was the right one and I was able to provide these details for her, because recognising details and patterns is how my autistic mind works and experiences joy. It made me very happy that I was able to help her and that I had a social interaction without having to mask my autism, but it being useful for someone else instead.

This reminds me of the comment on my post about infodumping concerning the autistic need of gaining knowledge and sharing it with others.

"As an autist, adquiring expertise on something and beeing helpfull with it feels central to socialisation." @maleza

So true.

#ActuallyAutistic #autism #AuDHD #neurodivergent @autistics

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

I wanted to make explicit why I am so deeply opposed to even someone as incompetent and unscientific as RFK Jr' investigating autism for its "cause".

It is because in my reading of history, no one has ever looked for a "cause" of some human condition without at least considering the possibility of finding an off switch.

Now when we're talking cancer, that's good and appropriate. It kills people. Greed, too, should be carefully fought. It kills way more people.

But autism doesn't generally kill. Not directtly, certainly. It's just a different way of thinking and perceiving and being present in the world. It's not a disease, and autistic people don't need to be "cured".

And more importantly, humanity needs not to look for, let alone find or develop, that off switch.

It's flat out eugenics. The elimination of undesirables. Doing it before we're born doesn't make it okay. Doesn't make it morally right. We contribute to the world in many ways. To society. Even if we don't always understand it.

But we uphold the social contract. Well, unless someone figures out that it's all based on BS, then it gets trickier, but as a rule, we do uphold the social contract.

So yes. If someone says they're looking for the "cause" of something that doesn't actually harm anyone, like transgender identity, or nonbinaryness, or asexuality, or autism, or anything else that's frankly harming almost no one, start asking them *why* they want to find that cause. What do they want to do once they find it?

Cause you turn over enough rocks, sometimes you get the bugs with the swastikas on them.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

I wanted to make explicit why I am so deeply opposed to even someone as incompetent and unscientific as RFK Jr' investigating autism for its "cause".

It is because in my reading of history, no one has ever looked for a "cause" of some human condition without at least considering the possibility of finding an off switch.

Now when we're talking cancer, that's good and appropriate. It kills people. Greed, too, should be carefully fought. It kills way more people.

But autism doesn't generally kill. Not directtly, certainly. It's just a different way of thinking and perceiving and being present in the world. It's not a disease, and autistic people don't need to be "cured".

And more importantly, humanity needs not to look for, let alone find or develop, that off switch.

It's flat out eugenics. The elimination of undesirables. Doing it before we're born doesn't make it okay. Doesn't make it morally right. We contribute to the world in many ways. To society. Even if we don't always understand it.

But we uphold the social contract. Well, unless someone figures out that it's all based on BS, then it gets trickier, but as a rule, we do uphold the social contract.

So yes. If someone says they're looking for the "cause" of something that doesn't actually harm anyone, like transgender identity, or nonbinaryness, or asexuality, or autism, or anything else that's frankly harming almost no one, start asking them *why* they want to find that cause. What do they want to do once they find it?

Cause you turn over enough rocks, sometimes you get the bugs with the swastikas on them.

OK brain, but Escape (the piña colada song) doesn't actually go:

🎶IF YOU LIKE PENIS ENLARGERS🎶

#audhd #autism #adhd #disability #neurodiverse #echolalia

OK brain, but Escape (the piña colada song) doesn't actually go:

🎶IF YOU LIKE PENIS ENLARGERS🎶

#audhd #autism #adhd #disability #neurodiverse #echolalia

Problems with executive disfunction and the task requires movement?

Try this song on repeat. I works even better on headphones. If it doesn't make you get up, you probably shouldn't.

https://youtu.be/fI5m695VF5M?si=1UvbjokJa-f724TW

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #ElectronicMusic