Hey, it's time to have the consent chat with folx again! Yay!

So, I know I can sometimes come across as flirty, maybe even a little sexual...and I am. BUT that doesn't mean that everyone gets an evergreen ticket to ride.

Consent is an ongoing process—continuing education—not a one-and-done checkbox.

Boundaries change, and so do circumstances. Just because we had hot cybersex a week ago doesn't mean I'm down for pet names or roleplay today. The number of unsolicited dick pics I've seen in Signal this week is too damn high! (the solicited number was just about right)

There's a distinction between different mediums and contexts. Like, my nudes are there for your enjoyment. I know y'all touch yourselves to 'em, and that's pretty hot. But it's not an open invitation to hit me up on Signal like we're dating (unless we actually are).

I value my wholesome-ish designation, and I try hard to be as—if not more—well-known for my community-building, outreach, and research as I am for my body.

So, ask. Ask early and often. And if I say no, it's not personal...it's preference. I prefer friends, open chats, and enthusiastic informed consent.

TL;DR; Fedi is for friends, community, and fun—all of which I prefer to do in public interactions. Flirting is encouraged, but either keep it light (or be really clever with the punnuendos).

In contrast, I use Signal for messages that are too personal or private for Fedi. Sometimes things get intimate, but this isn't OnlyFans chat.

I've noticed that since starting @AltAfterDark, I've been getting a lot more chat requests on Signal, and I've already had to remind several of those folx that escalating requires new consent for each session and that I'm not an on-demand fantasy.

#PSA#Consent#Boundaries

Hey, it's time to have the consent chat with folx again! Yay!

So, I know I can sometimes come across as flirty, maybe even a little sexual...and I am. BUT that doesn't mean that everyone gets an evergreen ticket to ride.

Consent is an ongoing process—continuing education—not a one-and-done checkbox.

Boundaries change, and so do circumstances. Just because we had hot cybersex a week ago doesn't mean I'm down for pet names or roleplay today. The number of unsolicited dick pics I've seen in Signal this week is too damn high! (the solicited number was just about right)

There's a distinction between different mediums and contexts. Like, my nudes are there for your enjoyment. I know y'all touch yourselves to 'em, and that's pretty hot. But it's not an open invitation to hit me up on Signal like we're dating (unless we actually are).

I value my wholesome-ish designation, and I try hard to be as—if not more—well-known for my community-building, outreach, and research as I am for my body.

So, ask. Ask early and often. And if I say no, it's not personal...it's preference. I prefer friends, open chats, and enthusiastic informed consent.

TL;DR; Fedi is for friends, community, and fun—all of which I prefer to do in public interactions. Flirting is encouraged, but either keep it light (or be really clever with the punnuendos).

In contrast, I use Signal for messages that are too personal or private for Fedi. Sometimes things get intimate, but this isn't OnlyFans chat.

I've noticed that since starting @AltAfterDark, I've been getting a lot more chat requests on Signal, and I've already had to remind several of those folx that escalating requires new consent for each session and that I'm not an on-demand fantasy.

#PSA#Consent#Boundaries

Please don't call the cops on homeless folks, who you may see/run into at some parks, if they're not bothering anyone at all & are trying to keep to themselves. I've met several different homeless folks all around this large urban park & never felt scared around them. I sometimes bring them free foods & first aid supplies.

We desperately need more social & transitional supportive housing in #VictoriaBC. All municipalities should be working on this - together. This is a shared social responsibility & it crosses every municipal border. Demonizing & dehumanizing homeless folks hasn't helped at all - it is also very unkind & lacking of humanity.

#HouseTheHomeless#YYJpoli#BCpoli#CDNpoli#HousingCrisis#SocialHousing#TransitionalHousing#WarOnThePoor#PovertyIsNotACrime#ClassWar#PSA

Please don't call the cops on homeless folks, who you may see/run into at some parks, if they're not bothering anyone at all & are trying to keep to themselves. I've met several different homeless folks all around this large urban park & never felt scared around them. I sometimes bring them free foods & first aid supplies.

We desperately need more social & transitional supportive housing in #VictoriaBC. All municipalities should be working on this - together. This is a shared social responsibility & it crosses every municipal border. Demonizing & dehumanizing homeless folks hasn't helped at all - it is also very unkind & lacking of humanity.

#HouseTheHomeless#YYJpoli#BCpoli#CDNpoli#HousingCrisis#SocialHousing#TransitionalHousing#WarOnThePoor#PovertyIsNotACrime#ClassWar#PSA

⚠️ PSA ⚠️

been seein lotsa fake verification spam out on the timeline today!!!

don't just ignore these! be sure to report them to your instance admins so we can ban them and keep them from pestering anybody else. be sure to forward the reports, too, so remote admins can ban them at the source!!!

#FediAdmin#MastoAdmin#PSA

when i say fake verification spam i mean this btw

#FediAdmin#MastoAdmin#PSA

⚠️ FOLLOWUP PSA ⚠️

if you have open registrations on your instance this current spam wave would be a great impetus to switch to approval-based signups

the extra moderation workload for having fully open signups is MASSIVE and for basically zero reward. it doesn't take much time or effort to vet and approve new users, but it takes much more to clean up the damage a shitload of spam accounts can do

#FediAdmin#MastoAdmin#PSA

⚠️ PSA ⚠️

been seein lotsa fake verification spam out on the timeline today!!!

don't just ignore these! be sure to report them to your instance admins so we can ban them and keep them from pestering anybody else. be sure to forward the reports, too, so remote admins can ban them at the source!!!

#FediAdmin#MastoAdmin#PSA

Everyone in the Pacific Northwest and related coastal areas. Be vigilant just in case.

https://weather.com/news/news/2025-07-29-major-earthquake-tsunami-warning-advisory-alaska-hawaii-russia

#Tsunami#NaturalDisaster#PSA#Alert#PNW

Everyone in the Pacific Northwest and related coastal areas. Be vigilant just in case.

https://weather.com/news/news/2025-07-29-major-earthquake-tsunami-warning-advisory-alaska-hawaii-russia

#Tsunami#NaturalDisaster#PSA#Alert#PNW

Patch supposedly already fixed account takeovers (I noticed I was logged out unexpectedly on Sunday night/Monday morning). Email leak to be fixed soon (hopefully).

https://techcrunch.com/2025/07/29/sex-toy-maker-lovense-caught-leaking-users-email-addresses-and-exposing-accounts-to-takeovers/

#Infosec#DataPrivacy#Breach#Lovense

Patch supposedly already fixed account takeovers (I noticed I was logged out unexpectedly on Sunday night/Monday morning). Email leak to be fixed soon (hopefully).

https://techcrunch.com/2025/07/29/sex-toy-maker-lovense-caught-leaking-users-email-addresses-and-exposing-accounts-to-takeovers/

#Infosec#DataPrivacy#Breach#Lovense

Time for another #PSA: Hey, minors, interact. Be part of the community. Ask questions. Learn shit from people who've been there before.

I hate this MDNI bullshit.

Sure, there are some boundaries you should be aware of—for instance, don't tell me you clicked on my nsfw gallery, don't send anyone compromising pics of yourself, don't give up personally identifying info to strangers, and so on. You're smart, I believe in you.

But I wish I had open, friendly, queer adults around when I was a kid. I had to figure out a ton of shit on my own. There were so many questions I had—and so many more I didn't even know I had until years (or decades) later.

So ask. Participate. Engage.

I'll always try my best to include y'all at the grownup table, and to talk openly and honestly.

All I ask in return is that you keep safe and grow up to be the best you you know how to.

(and maybe save me a seat at the kids' table once in a while, because adults can be boring as fuck 😮‍💨)

Time for another #PSA: Hey, minors, interact. Be part of the community. Ask questions. Learn shit from people who've been there before.

I hate this MDNI bullshit.

Sure, there are some boundaries you should be aware of—for instance, don't tell me you clicked on my nsfw gallery, don't send anyone compromising pics of yourself, don't give up personally identifying info to strangers, and so on. You're smart, I believe in you.

But I wish I had open, friendly, queer adults around when I was a kid. I had to figure out a ton of shit on my own. There were so many questions I had—and so many more I didn't even know I had until years (or decades) later.

So ask. Participate. Engage.

I'll always try my best to include y'all at the grownup table, and to talk openly and honestly.

All I ask in return is that you keep safe and grow up to be the best you you know how to.

(and maybe save me a seat at the kids' table once in a while, because adults can be boring as fuck 😮‍💨)

Congrats to all the folx going through the verification process mentioned above! I've been monitoring the logs, and so far zero issues have been detected with your accounts!

I think it's safe to say that your accounts are working just fine 💖

( #PSA: please don't click any links without knowing where they're going to take you. At the very least, use something like https://www.virustotal.com/ to check them first )